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Met this girl (24) online who moved to my city 2 years ago for work and things moved fast. One 3 hour dinner at a restaurant & I got the impression that she was a complete "goody two shoes." We had so many values in common... so I thought :/
2nd date she invited me over and we slept together, which caught me off guard. She initiated everything, but I went with it b/c it felt special. I didn't finish and she said "I'm sorry I'm not very good at this" which got me thinking she had not been with many people.
2 wks later we were in a relationship & the only thing I knew about her past was her one and only 9 month relationship & some dating that didn't work out. A week later at 11:30pm she gets a missed call & text from a guy saying "Hey, I miss you." She explained it was a guy she dated earlier in the year. No big deal she didn't even reply.

A week ago and a text form her ex for a valid reason created another awkward situation, which led to me asking dangerous questions. How old she was when she lost her virginity & how many guys she had slept with? I didn't think I would get unsavory answers, but I did.

She lost her V at 20/21 (not a big deal), told me I was the 8th guy she had slept with & the last guy was 4/5 months before me. With her only being 24 & a 9 month relationship in there I did the math. From the time she broke up with her ex there was an 18 month period where she slept with 6 guys. Very unsavory info, but it gets worse... 2 of them were one night stands where she invited the guys over to her apmt the very first time, the other 4 she slept with after only 2-4 dates and one turned into a friends with benefits situation for 2 weeks :/

We have already BOTH fallen for each other hard and I'm devastated. She feels AWFUL, said she was lonely & admits the mistakes & how stupid she was. I feel like she was only after sex, had no respect for herself, didn't learn from the mistakes & am having a hard time seeing her as the same person I thought she was.

Seems like if you criticize women you are automatically an incel, unless of course you have a girlfriend. So if you are not having sex, are you allowed to have criticisms of women, or does that automatically make you an incel?

It seems weird doesn't it? Like if you were involuntarily celibate, that means you actually really like women, you really want one, but just can't get one. The voluntarily celibate man has harsh criticisms of women, so because he is true to himself, he refuses to settle for the bullshit. Seems like that is a voluntary decision, not an involuntary circumstance, does it not?

Me and my girlfriend of 11 months have been on and off for a while. She constantly breaks up with me due to her own anxiety and inability to move on from past things. We both have done things, and they in a sense "void each other". So, I had sex with a girl after the last time she broke up with me, and we got back together. I did not tell her (we've been back together 2 weeks) and she says I cheated. Is this cheating?

TLDR: Is having sex with someone else cheating when your significant other breaks up with you? Even if it's a very committed relationship?