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I'm a 22 year old virgin and that's partly by choice.

I've recently finished a college course where I got essentially bullied (feels weird to say that at my age in a college environment) about how I haven't had sex yet at my age. One of my three tutors being the worst for it: telling me to shut up because i'm a virgin, that I only have 8 years before I become a "wizard" and how i'll probably die alone. (not sure why it's any of his business, but that college course is behind me now).

Truth is: if it wasn't for the social expectations of "you need to have sex to fit in" I wouldn't really care that much. That's not to say that I don't want to ever have sex, but i'd rather it be with a partner than: "come on man! She'd usually be out of your league; you gotta do her! this could be your only chance!". My tutor made the point that if you have sex with 30 people then you don't care about your first and I understand what he's trying to say, but I'd feel more comfortable and probably enjoy it more if it was more about an expression of love with someone I care about rather done to just simply punch my V-card.

I'd much rather work on myself first: I have severe anxiety and am finally finding the courage to go out and talk to strangers; I attend social anxiety meet ups with others who have the same issues. I also attend the gym regularly in the hopes of toning into a body that I not only think will be more physically attractive, but also give me more confidence. That's not to say that I can't do this and have a relationship, but it just isn't that big a deal for me right now. I have had girls tell me they have feelings for me and while flattered, I just didn't feel the same.

So, should I feel bad about any of that?

I saw a post from a girl who had what she called a fuck buddy for the past 5 months. She had developed feelings for her partner but she had never expressed those feelings to him and she was reluctant to do so. That struck me as quite odd.

1. She can take off her clothes and let him see every square inch of her naked body but she can't tell him how she feels.

2. It is possible that he has feelings for her but is also reluctant to express them. So, if neither of them is willing to discuss this. . . they would rather let the opportunity for a relationship pass than face the possibility of being rejected. I've never heard of anyone dying due to being rejected by a member of the opposite sex!

For you guys, texting seems to be the norm for asking a girl for a date or for breaking up. You go out on a date and you spend your time texting other people. And you wonder why you don't feel connected! You are afraid to take a chance and have somebody say - to your face - "Thanks, but I'm not interested in going out with you." I have asked girls for a date and heard excuses, lies, and outright rejections. I just moved on to the next potential romantic interest. It's really not a big deal!

So. . . how do YOU feel about telling someone, "I really like you and I'd like to spend more time with you"? If you love someone, or even if you just seriously like them, you shouldn't show it: true or false?