Search Results: getting her to open up

As in is open to dating anyone to get to know them as a potential boyfriend or girlfriend but is very strict with sex itself. So the dating is really about getting to know each other as people as potential boyfriend/boyfriend not seeking out sexual satisfaction.

this is not a biographical question... I’m just wondering why MANY people are against dating around like it’s dirty or indicative of low moral lack of loyalty increased risk of cheating etc, when really dating should give you a cushier to get acquainted

I wonder as well if casual dating people wpuid stay far away from those who are not on a date to sex pipe line.

And I Get it sex is a way for some people to get acquainted and that is fine but I’m guessing those people don’t feel sick about casual dating.

Seems to be high correlation with date around and fuck or date exclusively and wait camps... I wonder how often they can mix it up.


I think if I was single, I’d date around a ton lije 2950s style date a diff guy on a diff day bit the date is not code for hook up. It’s literally go out in a date. I kinda really LIKE the idea of like booking dates as appointments lol... 🧐 but then I am hyperactive am no good with ambiguity and I do best with structure 😌 so this may be more a personality thjng than sayjng approach. I’m thinking of sanity not landing the right bloke, per se 😇

In a situation where I'm Torn between wanting to make a friend, but not knowing if they like me or I'm being annoying? Can't decide if I should reach out and make plans, or wait for her to?

It's a girl from my town I'd never spoken to but knew of. Two months ago I messaged her to ask about something. It wasn't my goal to make friends, but she ended up being super friendly and talkative, she carried the conversation on all evening, to the point we weren't even talking about the thing I initially asked. She also followed me on TikTok and Insta and I followed back.
The next day, she popped up to me, and once again we spoke for most of the evening. The conversation even got quite deep when she started sharing some personal things.

After that point, we continued chatting here and there, and liking and commenting on eachother's posts. During one of our chats she suggested we meet up once restrictions are lifted.
Eventually restrictions did start lifting, so I reached out and asked if she wanted to make plans like we'd spoken about. She said sure, so I began asking about which day would be best. She didn't even open the message all night, then when she finally did, she left me on read. I Was pretty dismayed and confused, as she'd been the one to suggest this in the first place, so didn't know why she seemed reluctant now. She finally did reply that evening, and said she was out of town but would be back from 4th-7th May

It is now the 4th May, and I haven't heard from her. I'm Not sure what to do next.
I Can't tell if she actually wants to meet anymore or not, and even if she does I'm not sure if I should message her or wait for her to message me.
Something is telling me to leave her alone, but I don't know it's that just paranoia/anxiety getting in the way if me making a friend.
She's apparently only back until Friday, then I'll soon be starting a new job so won't have as much free time, so I don't want to miss out on our chance to meet.