Search Results: getting the old him back

I have a friend who's a decent enough guy overall. A hard worker with a friendly disposition that you can rely on, except when it comes to his relationships. He likes to blame everyone else for the reasons his relationships fail. "She lied to me. She left without warning. He lied to her about me. He seduced her into leaving me." That kind of talk. Near as I can tell there have been 3 women, from an outside view, that were to blame for things turning bad.

That being said his personality in a relationship is more often at fault. He's very dismissive of small issues that later turn into large ones. He talks down to his women like they legitimately don't know any better. And if He's not getting the attention he thinks he deserves he'll try and get sympathy from every other woman who will listen. Overly needy and self centered, is how I imagine most of his exes would put it.

Irregardless, he is still a friend of mine and I've been trying to push him on to a better path for the past few years. Unfortunately he seems like he's settling into the lonely and bitter old man trope by embracing his "victim-hood" and shutting positive people out of his life. I just wanna know if I can pull him back from his downward slide or should I let him hit bottom and let find his own way back?

I have two versions..
Nikhil & Niklaus.
(key difference
Nikhil Operates with heart and speaks from ♥️
Niklaus is purely reason and logic identity)

Now I am getting this common complains from girls that, they like the guy they met in person..
I channel my older version Nikhil as a camouflage in college...
They are comfortable with that..

But once I am outside college or texting virtually..
I am full mode NIKLAUS and these girls have this complain that they don't like talking to me over text...
Hence they hate talking to Niklaus...


It's like they want me to Change back to my old self.. And i cannot i tried and that version was badly used and emotionally manipulated by girls..

I am 27 and never had a real girlfriend.

I am in deep depression. I had to go to the hospital 2 nights ago. I was handcuffed and taken to the hospital by the sheriff's department. I was in bad shape.

Back in 2020, I had an online thing with this girl. She was exactly what I was looking for. She never had a male friend before she met me, and she never dated ot had a boyfriend. She never kissed and was still a virgin. Things were going well for several months until we met the first time in person. She rejected me because I wasn't her type.

Now, she is about to marry some other guy soon, and he gets to be her first everything. I am almost sick to my stomach thinking about it. It is extremely heartbreaking to me.

The thing is, I want to find another girl just like her. I don't know if that was my one and only chance. I feel like dating 18 year olds is about to become off limits to me. I am getting really scared. I cannot even sleep in peace at night, because I dream about her still.