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Okay, first, she's not officially engaged yet, but she and the guy she is dating have been together for 7 years and plan to get married in the next couple years. And she's a bit of a ditz.

She was like my best friend when we were waitresses together, but when I started my career and moved 45 minutes away, it was hard to get in touch with her. She came to see me once and she never returns phone calls or texts, even now that I've moved back. And whenever she does call back, it's usually after at least a week and she only talks about herself. I came to see her when I first moved back a couple months ago and her 18 year old neighbor was there and referred to her fiance as 'boyfriend person or whatever'. I look at confused and said, 'Um, you have a ring on your finger, so wouldn't he be your fiance?' and she said yes.

My friend then looked at me and said, 'I know what you're thinking. How can she find a husband at 18 and I'm 26 but can't even get a guy to commit to me?' and then laughed, which isn't what I wasn't thinking at all. When I confronted her about it, she told it was a joke and moved on to the next topic.

Then she told me she wants me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding, but since I'll be the only black one, she wants me in the middle so we look like an inside out Oreo. She also told me her dog is racist and I'm the only black person she's ever responded well to. Yes, my friend is white.

Honestly, I really don't want to be in her wedding. I think we've grown way too far apart and, frankly, she is REALLY getting on my nerves. She first asked like 3 years ago which is when I promised to do it, but now that we've gotten together a few times, I don't even want to go to it.

Should I go because of a promise a made years ago or should I just tell her no? I don't dislike her, but I'm not really feeling being in her wedding.

• Your partner drinks as an outlet. Drinks about 2-3 beers before work/after work. When they go to the bar they buy another 2-3 big mugs of beers and some shots. They always drive home buzzed even after having a previous DUI. But they know how to handle their alcohol. Smokes cigarettes as well. They go to bars about 4 out of the 7 days of the week.

• Goes clubbing frequently. All their friends are single and you've only been clubbing with them once. You are all about them having fun, however they texted you they danced with a girl and to think whatever I want because I had a friend there watching him. They then added the girl on fb the next day. Tried not to let it bug me but it was weird to me.

• When not out they play video games all day. Live with their parents still at the age 25. hasn't finished school and no career plans. Just trying to pay off debts.

• They message a specific opposite sex friend on facebook a lot and they like each others posts a LOT. Every time you see their phone buzz, this persons name is always on there. I mean 3-4 days you see their name on there. You asked them who they are and they say it's their best friend however you never met this best friend. You check out the convo and they're talking about stupid things however your significant other is the one initiating all the chatter and talking all day and all night. They talk to the friend more than they talk to you.

Where do you set the boundaries of talking and entertaining the opposite sex? I'm all for having friends but if I haven't met them and you are talking all day and all night I see that as an issue. I dont talk to my opposite friends that much unless I'm asking a question or setting up a group hangout. I know my limits. My ex said this girl had a boyfriend but why is he entertaining her and sending her emojis but never to me? It's just social media and text, yeah who cares but I felt like I was on the back burner. I don't know what are your opinions on it?