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What I mean is, dating in America is a whole different culture than it is say, compared to the UK (where I'm from). If you simply search "Why isn't he texting me back?" or "how should a guy date?" you're found with a plethora of articles written by dating experts, and the majority are American and I think this sets the tone of the dating scene as a whole.

I'm not saying any of those articles or the advice in them are necessarily bad or misleading, it's just most aren't universal. A prime example is the encouragement of dating lots of people simultaneously.

In my experience, any decent man wouldn't necessarily have the time or energy to see two or three women over a long period of time. Going on lots of first dates however is different and is the initial stage of entering the dating scene, because most likely, out of those first dates you will find a woman or man you feel a connection with. Stringing two or three guys/girls along over a period of weeks or months isn't cool, even if you're open about it.

Let me tell you what a typical British date usually entails: the pub. No fancy dinners for a first date, thanks!

So yeah, this just got me thinking. I may even do another poll asking who would you rather date: an American guy/girl or a British guy/girl! :)

The whole thing is a filtering system. If you're dating someone, whether for a month or a year; if you feel truly comfortable and the girl mirrors just as much as interest.. who cares who plans what? You hear from every article on the internet that when the girl plans dates and initiates "that it would kill a guy's interest!" Only the losers would become complacent, sit back, and let the girl take the lead. It doesn't work like that.

It's all about achieving balance.

Girls, don't initiate dates to reassure yourself that he's still interested in you. Plan a date because you want to and you want to spend time with the guy. I believe it's perfectly acceptable to plan a date after a guy has done so... hence, dating is a two-way street. Of course, always make sure he is investing just as much as you.

In the beginning, I feel guys should pursue the girl for a few dates and if things go well, and you're completely comfortable with each other, you should take turns. I'll probably receive comments saying "why should the guy do all the work at the start blah blah" but to be honest, I wouldn't want to be with a guy with that attitude. I like to know they're interested. Yes, dating/courtship has changed a LOT over the decades but it's core rituals are still the same: women DO like being pursued at the beginning and men like the chase. When that "chase" is over, is where things really begin chnage - either better or for worse.

Thoughts?