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Men: True or false: You want the truth, whether it's good, bad, or ugly?

Ladies: 1. Do you want the same? (that's complicated, I know.)
But here's my real question to you, ladies... Do you/will you give the guys this, since that's what they say they want? Or do you believe it's not a good idea?

Now, on the surface, I presume that just about all of you would answer, essentially, 'yes, truth is necessity in good relationships.' But what about raw, unfiltered, sometimes emotionally-heavy, unclear truths? The ones that feel true in that moment, but may or may not change?

Take a look at this beautiful exchange between a couple. I really like both people.

Woman asks man: "What kinds of things make you feel wanted and special?"

Man's answer: "The simple fact that I can be direct, I can be completely honest, you're going to tell me the truth, whether it's good, bad, or ugly. And the fact that we mesh really well, we discuss all the things upfront that I think we really need to discuss up front. Which is, I think, everybody's end goal, to have somebody that you can be a better you for yourself. You make me a better me. That's all it is. The sky's the limit, as long as you're with me."

You see how the man's wording is a bit harsher than what a woman would likely choose? But he said it in a loving tone. There was no aggression behind it at all. But the sentiment is one that I've heard many males utter, especially when angry, or in times of conflict.

As a side note, I also like that the woman asked him what he needs, what he wants, in a relationship (basically what she can do for him) and he answered her question, but in a slightly different way. He's not looking for gestures or gifts, etc. To him, the gift is her honesty and him being able to discuss the hard subjects with her, without her avoiding or shutting down.
That is really the subtext of this text.

Thoughts?

COUNTING CROWS song from the 90s Called ANNA BEGINS

Please answer Your views based only what you can infer from the lyrics of the song. Not From his real life 🙏

{My friend assures me, "It's all or nothing."

I am not worried

I am not overly concerned

My friend implores me, "For one time only,

Make an exception."

I am not worried

Wrap her up in a package of lies

Send her off to a coconut island

I am not worried

I am not overly concerned with the status of my emotions

"Oh, " she says, "you're changing."

But we're always changing

It does not bother me to say this isn't love

Because if you don't want to talk about it then it isn't love

And I guess I'm going to have to live with that

But I'm sure there's something in a shade of gray

Or something in between

And I can always change my name

If that's what you mean

My friend assures me, "It's all or nothing."

But I am not really worried

I am not overly concerned

You try to tell yourself the things you try to tell yourself

To make yourself forget

I am not worrized

"If it's love, " she said, "then we're going to have to

think about the consequences."

She can't stop shaking

I can't stop touching her and

This time when kindness falls like rain

It washes her away and Anna begins to change her mind

"These seconds when I'm shaking leave me shuddering

for days, " she says

And I'm not ready for this sort of thing

But I'm not going to break

And I'm not going to worry about it anymore

I'm not going to bend and I'm not going to break

And I'm not going to worry about it anymore

No no no no no,

It seems like I should say, "As long as this is love"

But it's not all that easy so maybe I should

Snap her up in a butterfly net

Pin her down on a photograph album

I am not worried

I've done this sort of thing before

But then I start to think about the consequences

Because I don't get no sleep in a quiet room And The time when kindness falls like rain

CONT*

You are not your job. You are also not your Instagram account, your Facebook account, or the number of followers you have on Twitter. Find here first steps to begin live fulfilling life!
We’ve established what you are not, so let’s dive into who you are — what your purpose in life is. Answer each question as honestly as you can.

For some of you, the first answer that comes to mind will be the answer from your soul. For others, the questions might require thought, journaling, or meditation. Find here what works best for you.

Question One: In three words, describe your personality.

Question Two: List five of your most dominant interests.

Question Three: Describe your character, including your virtues, vices, strengths, and weaknesses.

Question Four: List the past four opportunities that opened doors for you. Who faciliated those opportunities?

Question Five: In the coming year, what opportunities would you like to have open to you?

Question Six: Who are the people who you most often deal with? List the greatest joy (s) and the greatest challenge (s) in dealing with them.

Question Seven: If you have a mentor, describe what you admire about your mentor. If you do not yet have a mentor, describe what qualities you’d like your mentor to have — qualities which you would like to emulate.

Question Eight: List the places where you have lived. What possibilities did each place offer you?

Question Nine: List the places where you have traveled to. You can list just the ones that had a clear effect on you, or all of them. In each place, what changed in you as a result of your visit? What did visiting each place teach you?

Find here your answers to the nine questions above should give you a picture of what you can contribute to the world — what you can contribute to your community, to your friends and family, to your work. Look out for the unique life experiences that have shaped you, as well as what future experiences you would like to have.