I just answered someone's question on here and without even realizing it, I learned that I had some good advice, so I decided to share it here.
Her question was whether love should be comfortable or passionate/exciting.
Love should be both--unfortunately it is really hard to have both but not impossible!
At first, love is always new and exciting:
There is novelty, risk, a sense of danger in a way as you discover new things about the person, you don't really know what's going to happen, etc. It's passionate and fun!
But eventually as you get to know the person better, "passionate love" turns into "familial love"-- you get used to them, comfortable with them, the love morphs into a similar love that you have for your family (not in a weird incestuous way ofc) but in a safe "you are my home, my family" kind of way. Which is also beautiful, just in a different way.
Some ways to maintain that fire, passion, and spark even in a relationship you are comfortable in is by creating your own novelty.
1. Perhaps get away from each other for a bit, take a trip on your own, allow yourselves to miss each other. When you are back, you will both value each other's presence even more and there will definitely be passion when you come back.
2. Show them you in your realm, for instance, if you play an instrument or sing, do that, if you are really good at I don't know, whatever you are good at, let them see you in your element--if they see you in a different light, it'll be like falling in love with you all over again.
3. Create novelty together--go on crazy adventures together, travel to a foreign place if you are able to, go skydiving or on rollercoasters together, try new positions/new locations wink wink, change your element together!
Neither form of love is better than the other--they are both beautiful in their own ways, but when combined, you can create an eternal, everlasting love that is more divine than anything else in this world.