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I've been together with my boyfriend for 2 years. I knew he was best friends with his ex. They dated around 2 months when they first met. Since that happened like 10 years ago, I didn't really pay attention to it. Up until over the course of 2 years, she was showing a lot of fishy signs and red flags here and there. I don't want to go too detailed but, it's obvious that she still has feelings for him.

I trust my boyfriend and it's not about him. It's clear for me to see that he doesn't have feelings for her. He doesn't find her attractive anymore & doesn't care about her feelings. Couple of his exes told him the same thing. She still has feelings for him. He just doesn't care if she has feelings for him because she's getting nothing out of it. He thought it was okay to keep her around just because of that. Since, they've known each other for 10 years, it is a long friendship.

I had a talk with my boyfriend about this situation. Problem, she asks him out "alone" a lot. He would go if he's bored. That makes me really uncomfortable since he's hanging out with this girl that has feelings for him. And they had history! She doesn't like me because of that. If that was me, he said he would be questioning a lot & won't be very happy about it. He would want me to cut him out. We concluded to cut her out. If they keep in contact, she would just cause issues. In other words, she has feelings for him, wants to hang out with my man alone, & diss me.

He doesn't care about her & completely fine cutting her out. He actually think he should because now that he think about it, she was a problem with all his past relationships. He said he was being oblivious but mainly, he doesn't care about her feelings/what she felt about him.

I do feel guilty because he is doing this for us. It's not in my nature to do something like that. He's known her for 10 years & that's a long time. But, I am very happy he made that decision. But I feel bad :(

Tinder guy and I matched. He messaged first about hanging out. He's in my town for business and will be here until Friday. We hung out. He didn't do anything sexual-- just fun and me showing him around the city. He was crude though. Open about his past sexual escapades and how he will talk with other girls he matched with. I was indifferent about it. Didn't care. After hanging out he would text me everyday saying lets hang out or ear here. I'm like ok but he never finalizes things. He keeps changing his mind about what events. Examples: i might play pool in my hotel, wanna come play? I say I guess and he doesn't reply. Next day want to go see a show. I'm thinking Wednesday or Thursday. Keep my sure Wednesday's ok with me. That same night he states he took a nap and he's tired. He asks me if I want to do breakfast the next morning. I try planning but he doesn't finalize. Next day he replies I found the breakfast place. Want to see a show on Thursday. I got annoyed and I replied cool! Well I'm going out of town and I won't be here remaining days. It was nice to meet you, have a safe trip back. He replies "lol 😒"

Is that rude? I kinda take it as such because I drove him around and etc. I kinda want to reply and say: That's pretty rude 😅. i guess New Yorkers are mean like they say. (He's from New York) lol

I felt like he flaked so much and kept changing his mind and pushing me back so he could hang out with other girls. He was very attractive by the way. But I wasn't feeling him like that. I want to make friends and network. We didn't even exchange face books. He works for a nice company in my field of work I'm trying to get my foot in. He's coming back in June. What should I do?