This hits close to home. You see since I was a little fucker I had hard time being around opposite sex. How hard you say? Well I would start sweating buckets being around girls and often when time came to be part of a play or for a musical class to hold hands I would feel my chest tighten and my heart beating like it's about to blow. This has been haunting and taunting me my entire life, getting overly nervous around girls. I went truth most of high school life being "that guy in the back" I never existed to girls in high school and honestly I never cared. Only time I stopped to think and run things truth my head is seeing variety of couples form in high school, and I always wondered "how. what do I lack that they have?". See I'm not a jealous type and I got a backbone, so I'm not a spineless fish fillet.
For future career I'm working towards becoming a Realtor. And you may wonder, how? Your a bloody introvert. Well yes, however I'm also a Capricorn and ISTP-A so with that said I love them money, to spend on useless crap that will kill me like that CBR1000RR ;) so when it comes to being a Realtor I have no problem talking to both sexes. Then again, my personality makes me feel awkward talking about something I hold little knowledge for. Since I'm not a type you will ever see in a bar or a party, to some I may live or exist under a rock, and that's a fair assessment. Alternatively you may say that walking to girls in public is a ultimate testament of showing you're "a man", but realistically living in North America specifically Ontario, Canada I doubt that would be a wise choice. I'm originally from Europe and approaching girls in public there is rather normal, not here sadly. Here you will have either cops called on your ass or looked upon like some kind of perverted weirdo.
So then what would your verdict be? Is it me, or is it just society this days? And yeah I know some parts like being anxious are on me.
Most Helpful Girl
Lol u sound like my boyfriend. His introverted capricorn and im an extroverted libra. We get on really well though, i guess we balance eachother out. He keeps to himself, and is pretty nerdy but i love him for it. He told me on our first date he was nervous as hell but to be honest he seemed SO confident to me and honestly thats one of the things that attracted me to him. Maybe you think you look nervous so you worry more but your not as bad as you think you are. If there's one thing I've learnt its FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT. You live one life... you can be ANYONE you want to be.0
Most Helpful Guy
The short answer, yeah, it’s you. The upside: you can work it, and it is just another ‘problem’ that needs solving!!
I’m ISTP SQUARED, OK? Total nerd, in HS, but hated the ‘nerd guys’!!
The hardest part of ISTP is dealing with the ‘small minds’ that seem to be the majority of the population!!
Women: Talking to them is an issue, because you like them?
Practice with women you aren’t interested in!! Talk to the checker at the store, and people at your work, or church (if you are so oriented). Just talk with ones you AREN’T interested in, and get comfortable, and work on your ‘style’, make them laugh, or like you.
It’s all practice, and building your personal confidence!! Then you won’t be so afraid to talk to the ones you really like, and you already have a ‘style’, maybe joking, maybe ‘the smart guy’, or whatever you are comfortable with!
Don’t be a dck, or be disrespectful. That only works with ones with low self-esteem, or ‘issues’ and you probably don’t want that.
It takes time, practice, and be patient!!
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