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I went through this about 10 years ago. My then 25 year old girlfriend made more than me when I was 32. But at the time I was pursuing a dream (I was a professional athlete) and I my time was consumed with training. I was no dead beat but I just had a different focus at the time.

I was doing freelance work just to pay the bills and I was struggling. She even offered me money at one time (which extremely kind of her) but it I turned it down out of pride and went further in debt.

Anyway the insecurity was on my side when it can to this (also contributed to our break up). She didn’t care but I did. It had a lot to with being raised to “be a man” when it came to being a breadwinner.

Nowadays I make a lot more money given I’m retired from my sport and have full focus on my career. But I am also a lot more “boring” now since I’m no longer the free wheeling adventurer I once was.

But money is a touchy issue. Form a evolutionary perspective I really do believe most women still subconsciously expect a man to provide for them even it’s unnecessary or impractical. They might get into short term flings with guys who offer other benefits (looks, excitement, adventurer, personality, etc) but when it comes to long term commitments they have a much higher bar on this

I also believe when a woman makes more money then her boyfriend/husband she’s more prone to cheating. Especially if she is comparable to him when it comes to looks (maybe she will stay loyal if she’s physically unattractive compared to him)

In fact I believe it’s unfairly more socially “acceptable” for a woman to do this given the guy is considered a “chump” if he is financial dependent on her. More more acceptable then vice versa.

I have a divorced uncle who worked a low paying his entire life and was supported by his (comparably) rich wife. She was no multi millionaire but she earned a lot more than him.

She ended up cheating on him the entire marriage. He tolerated it because they had kids and he needed support.

I'm not picking an MHO for this question. If one is picked, it was done automatically. I value everyone's answer on this one and am hoping to learn from your stories. Not sure where this question belongs so I'm going with the first suggestion GaG gives me. If I get it wrong, that is GaG's fault, not mine. I don't think a proper category exists on this site for this type of question.

Think back on where you were in life 10-15 years ago and compare to where you are now.

Did you achieve the dreams you had for yourself back then/are still pursuing them? If not, did you give up? Or did your priorities simply change the dreams you had? If you achieved those dreams, are you happy? If you did not, do you regret not achieving those dreams or are you glad life changed directions?

Are you happy with where you are now?

Do you miss how things were back then?

Are you still close friends with anyone from that time period?

What good changes have come over you?

What bad changes have come over you?

What would you change?

What would you do again?

Finally, the question of love. Did you and your high school sweetheart make it all the way? If not, have you found the love of your life? Or are you happy remaining single?

I'd love to hear everyone's journeys from that point in time until now. Feel free to go beyond the questions I've asked.