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there's this girl who i fancied for like 4yrs, also love. she friendzone cos she dont like me like that, she said im like a brother to her or something.. i guess im jus not hot :(
anyway i didn't wanna leave her friendship and abandon her cos even tho i fucking hate being friendzone.. it would hurt even more to delete her out of my life completely.. so i remained friends, and for like 3 years i have been hiding my love for and trying not to let it out.. if she only wanna be friends she dont deserve my love.. but for some reason it feels like its bursting to get out n i wanna tell her i love her... but maybe thats a bad idea? she probably won't even care, she will probably jus say "oh"... so maybe i should jus hold it back n not tell her

I do not feel good about asking this. It makes me feel slimy and gross.

I am especially unhappy with having to ask so bluntly and crassly; in order to fit the one-sentence format for a GAG "question title".

I would like to explain why I am posting this. ( Feel free to just answer. Nothing below is critical for you to know).

I've always had many female friends. Most of my closest friendships since I was 13 years old have been friendships with women. I'm generally someone who people feel comfortable confiding in. I have known SO many wonderful women who have been in abusive relationships. I am as intimately familiar with the scars that can leave on a woman's psyche as anyone can be, short of first-hand experience or formal training.

On GAG I've spoken to dozens of women who were:
-In abusive relationships;
-had escaped from an abusive relationship;
-were currently in the early stages of a relationship with a guy who was showing signs he was likely to be abusive;
- or were in relationships which were clearly abusive, but were in denial; or genuinely didn't realize their relationship was "abusive."

The nature of abuse varies widely; as does the "sort" of woman. It varies from a boyfriend who is emotionally manipulative and has boundary issues... all the way up to sadists monsters who would quite literally torture their girlfriends. I have nightmares about some of these women's stories (three of them in particular).

I am under no illusions about abusive relationships being uncommon. That upsets me more than I can put into words. I also know that there have been attempts to find out "just how common". I also understand that a GAG poll is far from scientific.

**I would really appreciate if you would click an answer to the "poll" even if you have no inclination to write anything. Women who haven't been in abusive relationships, please just click that option before moving on to the next question.**

Thanks

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