so where did the good guys go?
okay, I am gonna be really honest here.
The good guys either gave up or are allready married, if you think there must be good guy left for you check your friendzone.
A good guy willl do anything for you no matter what is what girls are claiming however this needs some nuance. Even a genuine good guy has a limit on how much pain he can handle.
in this take I am going to explain why you girls that are asking this question only find fuckboys to date and I am gonna categorize them in very hated terms. starting with the one I used in my username.
The friendzone:
Lets just say from the start the friendzone has nothing to do with friendship, especially from the girls side. People think men that complain about the friendzone don't value friendship. but it obviously is the opposite. A man that is in the actual friendzone is a man that has been rejected by a girl he actually loved not one he just wanted sex with, a man that agreed to be friends and does treat the woman that rejected him as an actual friend despite being hurt. When the girl actually treats him as a friend too it is a friendship but when she just complains about other men she does date and never takes the time to do friend things or listen to him it is but still expecting him to always be there for her when she needs it that is the friendzone.
a lot of good guys are put over here and then they are blamed for being asshole that just wanted to fuck the girl when they try to move on because they can't do it anymore.
wanna prevent the guy you call a friend from walking away treat him as a friend not a therapist. this doesn't mean you can't talk with him about stuff but it means to respect his feelings too and putting effort in the friendship aswell. If you don't put effort in it it is the friendzone.
so looking for a good guy ? look over there.
The nice guys finish last narrative:
if you have to say you're a nice guy, you are not a nice guy I have heard it a lot. and especially read it a lot when reading trough comments on many different sites an apps.
But why do these guys say they're nice guys.
simple they are rejected by one or woman that used the prhase you're a nice guy but...you know the rest.
This is usually the way they end up in the friendzone in the first place. Then when supporting the girl that rejected him in this way he will notice how wrong the guys she does date are treating her. when this happens with multiple girls he likes over a span of time he will someday come to the conclusion girls only like jerks.
So finally the answer to the Question: where did the good guys go?
He still isn't allowed to say he is a nice guy, but all the rejections contained an equivalent of you're a nice guy but or but you're too nice. So offcourse he came to the conclusion that treating the girls right was the fault in the first place. So now he has to decide how to stop being miserable. He will deal with the pain by playing games, working out or reading. While he is doing that he is deciding on his own path, maybe even by asking Questions on this site getting attacked for calling himself nice or getting called an incel because he doesn't have luck with the ladies the ones calling him incel are the guys type of guys you women call fuckboys. He can try do what they say and become like them but really do you wanna create more of these ??? I don't think so, that's why I say stop using the word "nice" in rejections. what is this guys other option at this point? he has none he either becomes the fuckboy or gives up on dating at all. so where did all the good guys go they are dead inside and gave up on dating, turned in to what girls showed him he needed to be an asshole AKA fuckboy or if he was in the maybe 10% of good guys that do succeed he is allready married.
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