Although I'm taking a long break from dating and I am no expert in dating since I have been in short term relationships I would like to express my views and opinions on this commonly asked question I use to ask myself and I think some women have asked themselves.
I will try to make it as short as possible.
I use to think that all the good guys were taken, but I would look at a guy and assume he was because I would base my self worth on a guy. I would assume things and I think it made me feel as if I deserved a guy who was not good and single.
This is not a testimony but a thought process on this question. Also this is not a rant. I would look at really attractive men and think "oh he must be taken!" Then I realized it was really all in my head. Taken or not I learned not to base my self worth on a guy and not to impress a guy and bend over backwards for a guy.
I learned not to waste my time on men who do not care about me just because I felt I did not deserve better. From now on I learn to focus on myself and my happiness.
I was so busy worrying about if a guy was taken that I did not focus on what I wanted in a guy. Any guy can put up a front and be good but I realized once I got to know some guys they turned out to be assholes.
And yes assholes can be unattractive and attractive. I realized that if a guy is taken I don't feel too bad because I don't know him well so what is there to want about a guy I don't know if I'm basing it only on his appearance?