Why does it seem all the good guys are taken?

Question

I found out this cute guy i work with is taken actually or likes a girl that looks nothing like me:( i feel so depressed today at work now because i feel like im gonna die alone😞😢

donkeyde · Accepted Answer

All good guys aren’t taken it comes down to how you approach these guys and what standards you’re setting. You may have a good guy you set as a friend only who could be the right one for you but your preference could be the reason it doesn’t go anywhere. Also where do you place yourself to meet these guys because unless you place yourself somewhere able too meet someone and allow yourself to be approached will be the deciding factor. Have standards for what you want but experienced more in life before saying that all the good guys are taken and don’t be afraid to make the first move most guys are dumb and don’t know what we want until it hit us.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

I could ask the same exact thing about women. And as others alluded to, you are not only young at 22, but female, as well. It takes little to no effort for a modern female to find a guy. Just lower your standards a little if you're looking for someone literally perfect. Maybe go for guys *less* than six feet tall or something. I don't know; I don't know you, but it's pretty hard to be single as a 22 year old female. I suspect you might be the overly romantic type, waiting on a Prince Charming like in a Disney movie.

JosyJosy · Accepted Answer

Dying alone at 22, don't be dramatic now, I'm gonna tear up

*cough*

Life's just begun. Take your time, meet people. There are public places where you'll find guys to meet, public events of something that interests you (= similar interests), dating apps and dating sites (yes there are just as many horny creeps on there as here, but just like here, there are also good guys out there). Take Your Time in getting to know one and allowing them to open up to you and be good to you. They're not all taken, some just haven't been given the chance to be a good boyfriend.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

If you wait for the guy to come to you, the chances the guy is single will be much higher and it’s not about looking like a super model cause it’s not necessary and everybody is pretty in their own way - it’s simply about being out in public in areas where you can regularly pass or come in contact with single men. A beautiful woman who talks to 5 people a month has a lower chance than an average looking woman who talks to 300 people a day as a cashier or a waitress etc….

OlderAndWiser · Answer

You are 22 years old, not 92! Be patient.

The_Maphio · Answer

Because that's how it is. Good guys look for the good girls and they don't let go within reasonable limits.
Finding the "good partner" can be a bit of a tricky venture, but once you get them, you're one big self realization point up in the "personal realization" scoreboard.

Finding level headed people these days is like fishing for pearls in a sewer pipe. Most of the times what you end up grabbing is garbage.

keniyaa · Answer

cause a lot of girls like guys that are good for them and treat them right. and funny thing is based on phycology the most beautiful girls are always single that can be true and its because guys think she is so beautiful she probably got a manz which sometimes that ain't the case but there are a ton of other good guys for u not just that guy u won't be single forever be beautiful to yourself and the right people will see it

Azura_88 · Answer

I also got this feeling.
A handsome, generous, talented, cool, loyal and popular guy married an average girl. Like Wtf?
It's SO RARE for a guy LIKE HIM to be loyal to one woman especially if he's popular TV actor and loved by thousands of other better women.
Nowadays even ugly bastards cheat as soon as they get a better option. So yeah I also felt that there will be a drought in terms of getting a good one.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

If you can respect a man and give him peace he can't find anywhere else and stay fit and feminine... You have nothing to worry about. Respect starts with yourself and most masculine men can tell if a woman respects them or not, why would i take her seriously if she didn't? Give a guy a sense of peace he can't find anywhere else and he will risk his life to protect you

TheorionMage · Answer

It seems it depends HEAVILY on YOUR subjective definition of 'good' guys...
perhaps you're not being honest with yourself as to who/what you ACTULLY decide is 'good'.

MOST 'goody two-shoes' guys eventually get dumped for BEING white bread 'boring'.
Life is too short, to merely 'settle for' ~ ;)

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Because most of you tend to look for raging assholes. Most likely, I'm gonna die alone, too!! I've only ever had 3 girlfriends and the last one was 25 years ago! She ended up cheating on me. The one before that eventually went back to her old boyfriend and the first one was just using me to make another guy jealous! THAT'S a great feeling!!

friendzoned4life · Answer

Yeah the good guys, aren't all taken a lot of them are depressed:

https://www. girlsaskguys. com/guys-behavior/a65761-answering-the-question-where-did-the-good-guys-go? utm_source=dynamic&utm_medium=androidapp&utm_campaign=question&utm_content=q65761

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

You will get their, just be patient. if you start getting that ‘desperate’ thing, guys will pick up on it. it will then become counter productive.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I'm going to go out on a limb here, but is it possible that the reason all the good guys seem to be taken, is because you aren't willing to take a chance on a guy who hasn't been vetted by another girl?

FlowerSeeds · Answer

I hope you are having a good day today and I hope you're not going to be hurt for too long with this it's okay I'm sure you'll meet the right guy one day :3

Ayanna240 · Answer

if you define good guys as only the handsome cute ones, then its no wonder why you can't find a man

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

I think it’s more of a competition. It’s why women always want guys in relationships and Vice versa. They look at the other person and say, “What about me don’t you like?” Or you can do better. All the while there are plenty good single men that you don’t give a hoot about.

moviedude714 · Answer

Are you still using dating apps such as Tinder, Hinge, Bumble? Or online dating? Most people will agree that the average woman or the typical woman has way more options than the average or typical man does when it comes to dating apps or online dating

Anonymous · Answer

Ah, well, as you can see, the good men are taken fast. Why? Because women love them ☺ Normal women don't wait around for him to make the first move. Instead they catch him. Or else they'll miss their shot.
Sorry but you're too late for him. Some girl may have asked him out before you. Or he found her before you. In any case better luck next time.

Paul09 · Answer

Oh some of us are around. But not bad enough for women lol. I myself seem to be into taken women or just women that do not want me. Then there the women that are into me, I'm not into them.. But you are young and a female, so you shouldn't worry about it.

sage2021 · Answer

Actually we don't really know for sure that they are really good guys; we just think they are. Scott Peterson appeared to be a good guy, that is until he murdered her and the baby she was carrying. So, see, ya never know!

DaveToo · Answer

First of all, you're only just getting started in life. You WILL meet Mr. Right, have children and grandchildren. Your husband may die before you but you will be living his legacy with your offspring.

Alyssa11 · Answer

I FEEL THE SAME FRICKEN WAY AND YES I AM EMOTIONAL ABOUT IT THANK YOU

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

They aren't all taken.. they just aren't the loud ones seeking attention they are the ones avoiding it... good pick a few apples before you find a good one!

loveslongnails · Answer

Snap out of it - you're 22 years old !!! There are millions of guys out there. Do you live in a big city? Where are you?

pink_and_inlove · Answer

They’re not all taken you just have to keep trying I wasn’t with a good guy before my boyfriend then I met him

loves2learn · Answer

Ugh. Been there, felt like that. It sucks. I can relate. I met my hubs when i least expected it is all i can say.

kkirk4442 · Answer

You are much too young to think that you will die alone. There is a lot of time left to find a good guy.

Anonymous · Answer

Be patient don’t rush it! I remember when I was in your place. I tried bumble and yea it took me a while to find a good guy, but I did. We have been dating for 2 years now and I honestly love him more and more everyday.

Gosceewual · Answer

because theyve been taken, girls dont wanna take the shitty guys like myself, and there's only a limited amount of hot guys, and since there's 3x more girls in the world than there is hot guys.,.. that would be the reason theyre all already taken

rebeliouse · Answer

@paolaa988 im sure there is a guy out there for you. try to start noticing the quite ones they are usually a good bet :D

bowenw · Answer

I always thought all the good girls were taken. It just takes time to find one that is perfect for you that isn't taken.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I think it's quite balanced since I also often hear "Why are all the good women taken?" a lot.

NathanDavis · Answer

I'm not taken, but I'm not available either... lol.

blank_expression · Answer

Because they are and there are fewer of them. Only trash like me remains.

Goatmeal · Answer

Because women tend, like sheep, to flock to the guys other women like. Instead of seeing the unrealised potential in other guys. It's called hypergamy.

kevyhanma · Answer

Because they’re scarce like good women but not as much

Anonymous · Answer

Bc they rlly are. As generation Gen z i can’t even see a clear relationship for me in the future. All those boys are asswhole and full of themselve. Its a pitty rlly… for myself not them duh 🙄

oldawg · Answer

All the good ones aren't taken you're just looking in the wrong place

poneglyphs · Answer

Who, said that I'm legit a good person and I'm never taken. Not all good guys are taken they are getting ghosted all the time  :^(

InferiorElegy · Answer

Funny thing is barely any are taken, females just love picking shit so they have lots to complain about to their friends, family and guys they cheat on their guys with.

2021biguy · Answer

Lot's of people feel that way in today's world, but I can be your friend if you want. I'm a nice guy but am just working so much, so that might be the reason too.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

Do you consider all good guys taken or do you consider all taken guys good? Dumbass.

exitseven · Answer

It seems that way sometimes but sooner or later the law of averages will work in your favor.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

There are tons of good men around, but they are invisible to you. Why? Because like most women your standards are absolutely absurd and unobtainable.

SilverRain92 · Answer

Being taken and having a preference are two different things. Try to get to know more. If he is not taken then you still have chances

zagor · Answer

You're being silly. Just because some guy you crushed on is taken is hardly reason to move to a nunnery.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

That because you limiting your search to guys younger than you most don't even want a relationship cause the just looking to hit it and the ones that do are taken

Andres77 · Answer

Please be patient and drop the drama. You're smart. You're going to be fine.

anylolone · Answer

Because all guys you define as good are taken. Maybe it's a prerequisite for you finding a guy good, who knows?

Jenngirl00 · Answer

That is why I like both. It gives me more options

Blaine999 · Answer

You and I feel the same way, people are always saying "you'll find someone" but I just don't believe them. No matter how many people are near me or how many there are on Earth, I always feel alone 😟

clampfan101 · Answer

I imagine a lot of good guys simply don’t stand out. It seems a lot of us, myself included, are shy.

JustMe62 · Answer

Most are taken, The rest have been ruined and dont care anymore.

collie22 · Answer

i guess there are more women than men in this world, so I heard

Arumin_Ian · Answer

Women instinctively like men who are already taken. It's called liking a pre-selected man

Still-alive · Answer

well im not taken yet... but you like younger guys soo im out lol

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

Not all the good guys are taken. I'm a good guy and I'm single. I'm looking for a good woman to spend my life with.

Twalli · Answer

The good guys are usually taken because their girlfriends keep them.

jerdanro · Answer

I think I'm a good guy and I'm not taken, but I'm also really fucking old to be dating.

jimmy2 · Answer

Man i heard that 36 years as i was married. She passed away now where the hell are you. Lol

Anonymous · Answer

Try asking out incels. A lot of them are actually really great people

Nicegirldaqui · Answer

I ask myself that too.

Anonymous · Answer

You're probably more attracted to guys in a relationship

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