Why does it seem like all the good girls are taken?

[benjammin09]

Okay I'm 21, never been on a date, although I have been rejected twice. Anyway it feels like all the girls that I find desirable are taken, or will be taken since I'm not the most attractive, (im better looking than some though). It seems as if all that is left is a bunch of hot, but stupid party girls drunk off their asses every night, or other girls I don't find attractive. Why does it seem like almost all have boyfriends.

[QueenJane]

The best thing in the world for me is a guy with a great sense of humour and who is a lot of fun! Who is totally himself and fine with all his flaws and imperfections and knows himself well enough to laugh at himself.

Honestly- (I know it varies from person to person), but looks have very little to do with it. It's more important I guess to focus on how you look- I mean how you look out at the world and what's your perspective.

For me what's really attractive is the quality of a man's gaze and how genuine and strong he is. On the inside. It has nothing to do with the shape of his nose trust me.

And there are a ton of women out there who ask the same exact question- Why are all the good guys taken? It's a good question- but obviously they are not all taken...

Also I think physically we reflect our thoughts and personalities. That's why actors and performers can transform themselves into beautiful or really ugly people, by just altering how they feel about themselves and it is transparent in the eyes, in the demeanor in a person's walk and in a person's body. So if you want to feel more attractive, take care of yourself and do all you can to look good and then god dammnit feel attractive, passionate, sexy., fun all the thigns that you already are but afraid of a little bit.

The right girl will come along when you least expect it. So stop expecting it.

[Cool-Relax]

I guess that means I'm not a good one, haha

You said yourself they "will be taken since I'm not the most attractive." They're not all taken, you just don't think you're good enough for them. If you write yourself off while they're still single, of course they're going to end up with other guys.

[benjammin09]

But come on look at me I ain't going to get no girl, at least not one I want, and that goes for personality and looks, I mean I asked a girl out in hs who I was good friends with and said that I was a great guy, but she wasn't attracted to me, and she was probably my ideal girl, at least back tehn

[Cool-Relax]

One girl doesn't speak for everyone, and you can't expect every girl you like to feel the same way. You need more confidence.

[benjammin09]

And how would that help if I'm butt ugly, I mean yes if I'm confindent I can be a girls friend, but nothing more, or so it seems

[Cool-Relax]

You might not think you were ugly if you were more confident...

[benjammin09]

Look it wouldn't matter if I thought I was good looking, most girls would still look at me as ugly. For examplea guy like chris farley might be pretty damned popular, but he ain't getting a girlfriend, heck he'll be lucky if he gets laid

[Anonymous]

haha I'm a good girl and I feel like all the good guys are taken! and I always fall for the bad guys and get my heart broken...and they keep going after the sluts.

i hate how society has become.

[The_Box]

"i hate how society has become." - Wasn't it always that way?

[Opinion Owner]

Probably, I guess its new to me. I grew up with expectations that MOST guys were gentleman and would pursue us girls and give us the time of day, but from my personal experience, I meet the pimps, hot guys, flirts, who I get blinded by thinking theyre good guys with their charm and presence, but over time I see through them and get my heart broken after realizing what jerks they were....

[benjammin09]

Well then I guess my advice would be to look in places where guys are better, if your religious, meet guys through youth groups an dstuff, get involved in service organizations, there you'll findsomeone better than some pimp

[The_Box]

It's not an easy task to be Mr. Perfect.

[ArtistBboy]

- Because they are lesbians *End Sarcasm*

I'm the opposite, I have a cute face but I was a twig at the age of 16... now that I'm older, I work out 3 times a weak and eat 3 times what I'm supposed to. It got me to bulk up, which made me happy. Me being happy, helped the women see who I really am- a fun and spontaneous guy.

I'm not saying this applies in your situation, I'm saying that you should find what works to achieve your overall girl. What are you looking for anyways? FWB / HB / LTR / etc?

[rosette]

LOL, I love the whole "end sarcasm" thing hahahaha (:

[benjammin09]

Im looking for a LRT because I am a moral guy and I don't think sex is important until I'm in a long term relationship. It seems like so many of my friends just want the one night stands, and I don't want that, allyou end up with is with broken hearts and diseased parts if you go that route

[Littletad]

Obviously the more attractive or popular the girl is, the more likely she will be pursued by other guys. Your best bet is to start taking action. Start being more aggressive. The nice guy routine just doesn't work as much these days. Keep in mind, I'm not telling you to be something your not, just to have more guts. We might not like the risks, but if we never made any, we would never get anywhere.

[DanteThomas]

Ever heard the saying... if you find them at the club then don't expect commitment? It depends where you are searching for your women. If you want a nice girl, hang out at the book store, library, or do more grocery shopping.

[The_Box]

They're out there. You've just run into a bit of bad luck. It's like when girls say that all good men are gay or taken, it's just not true.