Are all the good guys taken?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well 50 to 60% of men in my age group are married so I assume of those men are good guys.

I don't know I haven't made an effort yet really to actively date. I took the plunge to go to a 50+ meetup group thinking it was a singles group only to find out halfway through dinner that it was only an interest group open to singles and married.

In my age group most meetups are dominated by women. Probably because more of us are alive and maybe some men have just dropped off the dating scene. The ratios of men to women gets worse over time 1 man to 4 but one woman told the ratio isn't that bad because a lot of women give up on dating too.

A lady at the bank I go to just told me to wait until the men start divorcing. I told her that sounded a bit predatory wishing for someone's marriage to implode. I think it is all about broadening ones dating pool. Loosening up a bit on what a man should "possess". Not the big stuff but the minor stuff. Widen the ages one will date if over the age of 30. 10 years younger 10 years older. Don't just date within one's race. Even if you have to date within one's faith like you are jewish or muslim there are many people within those two religions who come from different races all over the world. Be open to a man who might be the exact opposite of who you thought you might date (within reason) That's my idea. I'll see how that works in the real world.

Daisy007 · Accepted Answer

"Good" guys? I'm sure there's a good amount of them out their, it just depends if I / they find them attractive. I define good as nice/charming so in that sence no! They're not all "taken" BUT for me to date them I would have to find the decently attractive looks wise 1st thennn I'd see if they're "good" guys.

Kaazsz · Accepted Answer

There’s tons of great guys out there.

I suspect the majority of them are unattractive to women.

I think society has taught men to be beta. As a result women are not attracted to good men anymore. Good men become beta because to follow what society tells you to do makes you beta and makes you unattractive to women.

I define beta and alpha as this:

Alpha: displays behaviors which attracts women.

Beta: displays behaviors that repels women.

Society teaches men to be beta.
Society shames men for being alpha.

Ultimately alpha and beta are meaningless. The real reality is women are attracted to men who express themselves fully and are comfortable in their own skin and value themselves above anyone else.

This is why most men are beta now. They are riddled with social anxiety and fear of women. They are no comfortable around women nor with their own selves. Though these men are good men they don’t know how to be attractive to women while also staying within the social protocol of being a beta. You do this by becoming comfortable with yourself and around women. Relaxed easy and cool around girls. Once you can be like that women can see the good in you. If you act scared and full of anxiety they will never see you.

Kimochi · Accepted Answer

i dont drink, smoke, or party ever. but most of the girl are exact opposite
all i do is work, and go home. i hate going places. so you dont have to worry where i have been
i dont waste money on stuff, save up $1200 every month for the last 5 years since i start working.
i have like a 3 good friend and thats all i need, mostly talk on nett but do sometime hangout like once every week or 2 week. so you dont have to worry i dont have time for you.
i have social anxiety, i dont talk very much, so most people find me boring and thats it.

young women dont want men that have boring stable life, all they want is to party and travel and shit. could say than between them and i, have a completely opposite mind set

dont even get me start on women who are superficial, all they do is dating douchbag just becuase he look attractive, and than bitching that all men are the same and where are all the good guy gone, while Chad and his gang jizzing on your face

when they start to hit the wall, thats when they'll start look back, start to lower their bar. just to have someone take care of them finacialy.

all guy know this and yes, Good guys are tired and have walked away

Logorithim · Answer

At any given time, there are. But whether a woman views them as the right guy may be a different story.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think a lot of woman feel this way and I have felt like that too at times but as woman we need to keep believing that it’s possible to find a good guy that is single - in this life - you get what you expect to get - so even when it’s doubtful you have to expect the good you want.

devilman666 · Answer

Oh, dont start this bullshit. I actually hate this discussion so much because it's full of misinformation and bullshit. "Am I asking too much to find an attractive, independent, solvent guy my age?" (Solvent means wealthy and able to pay off her debt, because apparently it's still a mans job to take care of women #sexism #DownWithGenderNorms).
by the way, men die younger and faster on average than women, so ofcourse by the time you are in your mid 40s there will be a lot less men your age, and the ones who didn't commit suicide or die in a workplace accident will likely already be married. I say that since most women making this argument are in their 40s or older, you are far too young to be making such a toxic and offensive argument. By asking "where have all the good men gone" you are labelling all single men as being 'bad' or 'not worth your time'.

"A man who has aged well, has a good outlook on life, a joie de vivre about him and who has seemingly done well for himself is very attractive to his peers. However, for the most part he is drawn to younger, sexier, more vibrant models." Because he should be forced to date the women in his age group.

"Men my age are all up for a pipe and slippers life, and I’m not" I want to live life the way I did in my 20s, I dont care if the man is exhausted from 35 years of working in a mine, he needs to want to go out and dance if he wants to be a good man!

"even as gender scripts fade, women have come to expect equality in the workplace but old-fashioned chivalry in their romantic lives. Men, in turn, are growing resentful of the mixed messages."

"She points to pick-up artists who promise a return to "primal masculinity" in the midst of "dating disarray," as well as other men who have given up altogether, on blogs such as Eternal Bachelor."

"A lot of men, particularly college-educated men, want to be more involved as fathers. Feminism has been successful in asking and getting men to see being a dad as a really important part of their lives. Still, [the job market]is really competitive, and at a certain point for married couples, somebody's going to have to step back and it's usually going to be the woman. A growing number of men are willing to [take parental leave] The big, unanswered question is whether women will really be truly happy with that, or whether they'll find it deeply, unconsciously disturbing that they're earning more than their husbands. We don't know that yet."

To highlight this, I have a question for you, where have ALL the good women gone? Women used to wait till marriage for sex, they used to be loyal, compassionate, and loving, now they're ALL greedy and self centered. Plus, once I actually marry one she'll just let herself go, or cheat on me, because I'll have to work long hours to support the family while she will probably work part time, at least thats what statistics tell me. (Its kinda insulting, right?)

justtechh · Answer

well damn.. Im not taken... even my ex's would consider me a good guy. each one had it's reasons for ending. I was a stepping stone for several. but I've been single 5 years now. went through a really bad breakup, and several other things all at the same time. extremely traumatic time in my life that broke me in many ways. so I stayed single to not drag anyone through my issues from that. only recently have I felt comfortable with the idea of being able to see people again, without feelings guilty or comparing them to her, or feeling like I'm doing something wrong. I was emotionally unavailable for a few years.

I guess it depends on your definition of what a good guy is. maybe part of the problem is that you're subconsciously interested in what isn't available, they aren't trying to impress anyone. they are themselves. usually. instead of trying cheesy pickup lines and trying to impress. or you see how they treat their SO and you want that, but obviously you wouldn't see how a single guy treats his SO if he doesn't have one.. there could be a lot of reasons why you feel this way...

CaptainOverthink · Answer

I personally think if women would just lower their superficial standards just a tiny bit and give the lesser good-looking ones some wiggle-room there are plenty out there still.

But then there's the obvious question; what's considered a good guy?
You looking for a family-man?
A cool, respectful and confident guy to party and hang out with?
Or simply someone with some good conversational skills and a selfless heart?
None of the suggestions above is necessarily a good-looking or overly confident guy.

AlienParasite · Answer

As long as I know there are good guys who are single, other different thing is if you have any interest in them or if they have interest in you. But you personally not having any interest in them doesn't make them bad, and them not having interest in you neither would make them bad.

Arielbubble · Answer

No plenty still waiting, but almost a quarter suffer from depression, commir suicide n are just desperate to meet girls, all coz of fucking stupid social expectations that are sexist n demeaning n toxic. Give some of them a chance girls. Go nab em. 🙂😎😎😎😎😘

Maraneva · Answer

Lol nope they're not taken most of the times. It's basic psychological preference towards initial attraction over inner character that makes people choose someone they're attracted to rather than someone who's good in heart.
By the time the lesson is learnt the hard way, the mind just shuts down and comes to a conclusion that all people are bad and untrustworthy. A branch of that conclusion sparks off the thought that since everyone is gonna be a douchebag, then 'logically' the world should be devoid of good people who are still single.
It's all down to the perspective of the individual under consideration 🤷

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I'm handsome, intelligent, successful, very social. I also refuse to date any girl over 22, who is fat, or who has fucked more than 4 guys. She also better be conservative and traditional. So 99% of women are undateable and not worth my time as far as I'm concerned.

Soft4u · Answer

There's no way of knowing what guy is good by looking at him, that can only be done by getting to know the guy better.
That's what makes this question anyone's guess.
I like to think there's plenty of good guys out there, the problem I have right now is being in the right place at the right time to meet a good guy.
It's not that my career won't allow it to happen it doesn't make it easy that's for sure, I believe if I want something bad enough I'll do what it takes to get it.

MzAsh · Answer

There are plenty of good men out there. They are with good women. High value women attract high value men. Be a high value woman.

ronaldo75 · Answer

Because good men these days are getting snatched up QUICK by the GOOD WOMEN. Women who play to many games and engage in too much emotional bullshit in their 20s and into their late 20s and early 30s reach an age where all the good men got snagged by the good girls. At 28, 29, 30 and older less and less GOOD MEN are single. They all got married in their 20s OR now they can sniff out the damaged women a lot better so they're waiting for the right one. As many women age they're going to find the men who are left behind for them are losers, creeps, baby daddies, divorced guys etc...

AynonOMouse · Answer

No. I'm a good guy, but it seems like the majority of people aren't worthy. I refuse to settle for someone that is immoral or that brings next to nothing to a relationship by comparison to me. It is doubtful to even find someone that meets my standards, which shouldn't be too hard, but people are so messed up that it seems like very few could ever meet the standards and also be a worthy good girl.
My standards for a potential SO. Wow, this got really long. ↗

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lernulo · Answer

I think it's fake as a stament but it's true as a tendency.
There are many chances good guys who got good girls remain coupled which obviously decreases the number of good guys single.
But, still remains many good men single after it.
1. May be they got a bad girl who started a toxic relation and must leave.
2. May be he had things to do and couldn't invest the time to get a girlfriend
3. May be a nice guy transforms into a good guy and become more attractive.

So, although I see that it's more difficult, I would like to compare that level of difficulty with the normal level of difficulty of an average guy to get a girlfriend at anytime.

EyeAmNiceGirl · Answer

No, they aren't all taken. However, I did ruin them for you. You see, I caught their eye (one at a time), went out on a date with each one (one at a time) and then seduced them (one at a time) at the end of the date. They each came back for more, yet I rejected them all. They totally want me again, and nobody else will satisfy them. Sure, you might get one of them to date you, or even marry you, but just know it is me that they still lust for, and you will never quite get their 100% attention.

Simon7c · Answer

That is just a mater of opinion. Women just want it the easy way. When you see a man with a woman you instantly think that he is better then the man that is allone. Because it takes time to get to know someone and determen if he or she is good. It is easier just to take someone already tested. That is just psihology.

MattNotMike · Answer

They aren't, tbh. I know what you mean by "good guys" you mean quality guys, not nice guys. Guys you are attracted to, not "nice guys".

most Guys make themselves available to more girls, most girls do not make themselves available to more guys.

The math works against you.

I have the same problem, tbh. I like girls with nice butts. However, 99% of the time they are either taken, or just have shit personalities.

Because I don't make myself available to enough people, my options are limited.

So, I make myself available to fit girls with relatively nice butts compared to their bodies.

TheRealQuestion2 · Answer

4 times in my life I've met girls that made me want to really try to build something special and so I approached them like a proper gentleman, I tried to get to know them and not rush into anything. None of them wanted me and I ended up alone, heartbroken, and confused.

4 times I've pursued girls who were wonderful people, but I couldn't build the life I wanted with them, I approached them with shallow Intentions, flirted with them shamelessly, and had a physical relationship with them. All 4 of them confessed a desire to build a life with me.

That has been the entirety of my experiences with women.

Gentlemanly approach=100% failure, heartbreak, and loneliness.

Flirty shallow jerk approach=100% success, happiness, and desired for relationship.

What kind of person should I be? I'm so tired of trying to be the good guy just to be left alone, confused, and in pain.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't mean this to sound harsh but the women I see asking this question tend to be older than the average age here on GAG. Most of the men women tend to think of as "good guys" get married in their early to late 20s to the women most guys think of as "good girls".

When I think back to the guys I knew in high school, in retrospect I can see which of them were the "good guys", even though some of them were not necessarily the most popular at the time. But they were smart and did well in school, they were less likely to be sleeping around, more likely to be the family oriented, marrying type of guys. I would say probably about half of the guys I knew then fell into that category, and every one of them was married within about 5 - 7 years after high school.

In my opinion many women these days miss the window to find a "good guy".

kanelives · Answer

*raises hand* take me! Take me! Im all alone, in my dark corner of the universe. Drifting away, slowly, looking for a thread to pull myself back into the light... meanwhile trying to keep my light on as a beacon so others can be guided back into the light- this is difficult, I am gonna disappear now. Baibai.

agent_orange · Answer

Are they? Don't worry, another batch are coming. 😁
But wouldn't men think the same about "good" women being rare nowadays?
I guess there'll still be "good men" available if we lower our standards on the qualities of men we categorize as good from bad. We had too much idealisms and expectations about men and relationships that sometimes we tend to overlook one important fact: are we good enough too to deserve a good man?

Randomawkwardness · Answer

The definition of a good guy varies from person to person and you might not be looking in the right place or talking to the right people. As for the men who have proclaimed themselves good guys, just stop. If I find a good guy, it's because of my personal view on what that means - not because he kept telling me he was a good guy and pities himself.

Tyme1313 · Answer

They aren’t, women who say that are typically just passing them over for other guys. It’s not a coincidence that most women date assholes. Lower your standards and go out with the fat bald guy you know, he is likely one of those good guys, you probably just overlooked him.

Bananaman177 · Answer

I know a lot of good guys who won't even look at, let alone talk to a woman anymore.

Women love to pat themselves on the back for having impossibly high standards, but when a man has high standards, women are the first ones to attack him for it.

phantomofliberty · Answer

I'm sure that good guys are out there. Somewhere. BUT. I bet my life they are hurt and still in love with their exes or they simply want to settle for the second best thing. And when his current girl, find out, he will be categorised in the "jerk" section. Paradox.

PrudentGuy · Answer

"Good" is very subjective.

Are virgin guys "good"? There are plenty here in G@G.

Or are promiscuous guys good? Probably much more here.

Or are Asian guys good? They could be on the shorter side but they know how to love.

So you see, preferences depends on who you are. Guy who are available, plenty. Do you want them?

Robssick · Answer

Nope, we still out here, were still taken for granted... and most of us are still single. I have 9 other friends who are all in the same boat too... we are honestly just so tired of putting our hearts out there only to have them stepped on that we stop trying :/ such is life

Cold_hearth · Answer

Don't think so... there are a lot of good guys out there who are not considered attractive, so they're single🤷‍♀️

Passinggas · Answer

Here is your dream man that you women/media promote by selection in this society:  If there are good guys, they are long gone with good women hidden away from it all.

poneglyphs · Answer

All of the good guys aren't taken, mist if them such as myself are just at home playimg games ir watching tv. I really don't go out that much because I like hangout only with my friends and family. So, when ever a girl sees me she might think I'm loner or taken.

yoganshB · Answer

Not all are taken. You cannot simply tell if someone's really good or bad. It's tuff to identify true gentleman from the bad guys today. Most of the time all seem similar. Maybe you're right in a way but I know many good guys who are single. I'm single myself but I'm a kid so... it's the way it should be. Yeah if I'll be single for next 10 years I'll come bake to reply again 😂 and I don't think I'll have to.

citygurl81 · Answer

I know a lot of us decent guys have given up. All we can find is women who are all about money, or they get whatever it is they want then they walk away. Or they feign being interested, then don't bother texting back, rather than being nice enough to just plain out say they aren't interested. Dating has become such a circus, maybe now we see why homosexuality is on the rise. Get tired of the opposite genders' crap? Look elsewhere. :) It's a new world, I guess.

BirdFan360 · Answer

You don't find many good guys in bars or tinder, if that's the implied question.

Change your area of attack, cause most guys I know go to bars purely to hook up. So yeah, plenty of good guys, but most don't go to bars.

(Example: Try the mall or shopping places. There you have a really good chance. Unconventional, but I've met great people this way. Asking for directions is a classic opener, so give it a try!)

NineBreaker · Answer

All the good guys will be taken if your criteria for what make up a good guy is so narrow and unrealistic that such a guy does not exist.

Therefore, the perception of the definition of a good guy is subjective. The level of a woman's standards is is inversely proportional to the prevalence of "good men".

btbc92 · Answer

Mostly B. A is HIGHLY subjective from the way many are speaking, and I doubt most of them are taken. But people like them and me are indeed hiding like good women are hiding and tired.

R_Cakes91 · Answer

Not all but you won’t find the good ones in bars and clubs. You have to go way deeper which is why so many women don’t even bother. We are so conditioned to instant gratification.

MecheD · Answer

I believe there are some good guys left. But you or anyone for that matter need to act fast. Good guys are “the lames” of today from societies standard. And to be shunned from “normal life” is a hard thing to do. Some of them get helplessly depressed and, some adapts to the “pimp/player” persona. From that stand point I say don’t wait for the lake to be a pond. “Get fishing”

Florancerose404 · Answer

No I disagree with that statement I know plenty of disloyal men in relationships same goes for women too. .

Though thankfully I have found myself a top man, though I had to go on a fair few dates to find him. It was definitely worth the wait!

Anonymous · Answer

There are good guys out there but many of them are heart broken from women ghosting them, leading them on and cheating on them. And I scared them all because I was pursuing them and being by their side. When they weren’t ready and needed healing. Don’t rush anything, be patient with their time and go with the flow.

Ayer93 · Answer

I mean, I'm gonna say the typical "I'd like to consider myself a good guy" comment and I wasn't taken a year ago. There are tons of good people in general out there. The trouble for most people is finding someone not only "good", but someone that has chemistry with them... similar interests, views, sense of humor, etc.

Anonymous · Answer

There is a tendency among women, statistically born out, for women to go after the irresponsible, fun bad boy type, when they are younger. Later when they want to settle down with a more responsible guy, when they are finally willing have a serious, long term relationship with a guy, they find that these guys are already in relationships.

hellacray · Answer

Nope and I'm not even speaking for myself.

I have a couple of guy friends that are single and I know they're good guys because I hang out with them often enough.

And at the same time I know a few guys that's been divorced and has been single for a long time.

bolverk · Answer

Nope All the good guys are not taken , they've got sick of the dating scene BS and decided its not worth the effort especially after the #METOO #BELIVEHER fiascos, where now men have a virtually permanent bully’s-eye on them even when they have done no wrong.

TinawAllison · Answer

There’s still some good ones. You just have to take your time finding him. I know it’s like trying to find a needle in a hay stack. You’ll know it when & if you find him. Don’t rush into anything either.

Anonymous · Answer

I think the only taken they are is advantage of. All the "good guys" I came across are really messed up because a girl did then wrong at one point in time. A guy I currently know is in his 30s and was used so much he's simply settled for never having a family or something to really be proud of. he's such a polite guy too, its honestly sad.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Nope they are not all taken.

richyone · Answer

There not. And lots of the guy you see in relationships you consider good are behind closed doors total animals abusing there spouse and even kids. Live and let live treat everyone how U expect to be treated be honest and you will see good men everywhere the law of attraction will deliver to U what you deserve

Lman3000 · Answer

If you think all good guys are taken, get your eyes fixed or better yet drop the high standards BS, specifically you own perfect fantasy dream man, It'll take you a life time to find the 100% comparable no errors mate, I get asked myself you seem like a good guy why don't you have a girlfriend? I just say I don't know, maybe the girls are the ones have the higher standards than guys

CharlieUnicorn · Answer

Because a lot of good guys are a bit invisible until they're in a couple. He'll start to be more outgoing with his new girlfriend, and that's when you see him for the first time.

Mehzmeh · Answer

Not true. It's just certain guy's flock to you. Not your fault. You just gotta see it with your mind first. They one you don't think you would not have a connection to. Would probably be the one that is right. And not talking about your friend zone friend either.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Because the grass is always greener on the other side. Especially when people always try to act like their relationships are doing better than they are

Gramkabir · Answer

When good guys are remaining good... Doesn't catch your eyes... But when they tried to do some bad things... U girls treat them as bad...
On the other hand, when bad guys do something to attract you, it's really adventures but end of the day adventures can't entertain life...
So after that the question raise "why are all the good guys are taken?" 😉

alexia18 · Answer

i come to the conclusion they are not just not looking lol

i had a ex that obv didn't want a relationship but he was the most caring person ever
needless to say it didn't work
amazing how some guys won't give up sex

Adonis_pl · Answer

I guess they all may seem to be taken, but there are definitely single ones out their. It's just that they're not loud or easily found, unfortunately. Just be patient and you'll find someone that treats you the way you should be treated😊

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Define "taken." With exception of one gal on this site, I'm not so much "taken" as unavailable. Not really with anyone, just have a lot to sort out before giving another girl a chance. The last five years, I've felt like a cat in a dryer.

Sensmind · Answer

While I am not 100% sure of the premise that all good men are taken after a certain age - Logic dictates that not every relationship lasts so therefore there will be periods when some of the "Good Guys" will be available again post a certain age.

Knighted2170 · Answer

Nope, I’m still here and available. Just haven’t had any takers recently. I’m not a mind reader, you gotta step up.

I’ll give everyone a try, but I do know what I’m looking for. So, if she believes she’s up for the challenge, give me a try.😁

Inneedofusername · Answer

Handsome, intelligent and charming - those men are already in relationships

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I think there’s plenty of good guys out there but some maybe emotionally unavailable or just too busy to date.

Are all the good guys taken?

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