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no hate, just trying to understand people.
I find this kinda funny, at least in america you are not allowed to drink under 21 and people think its bad for you but its actually not lol, i mean its not good but its not that bad too , you get some fun and nothing happen, if u consume alcohol like a lot every day you will have problems but you are way too far from that. Im 17 and i got drunk a lot times (not that i took alcohol in small dosages but i dont remember anything a lot times when i got drunk) and every friend of me and better to say almost every person i know was drunk (lets say from 500 teens i can't tell you more then 30 didn't consume alcohol and i find this okey if they don't want but still more then 470 are getting drunk every month at least once) and best thing what i have to say is im super healthy and muscular and i drink alcohol. Point of this is not to be cool but to have fun. Admins&mods please don't delet this question, first read the laws, its allowed to drink alcohol in more countrys under 21 years of age and this website is for world not america by the way its question only.

I'm 20, i've never had a girlfriend and i'm beginning to fear that i'm an unaware incel or nice guy. I did research and even asked a few close friends what they thought. But my research was inconclusive and while friends don't think I am, their observations might be a little biased. So i'd like to get a unbiased opinion.

I didn't care about girls until I was 13; i've have asked 3 girls out over the past 7 years. They all said: "i'm a nice guy... just not their nice guy". Their wording is concerning, but as I was good friends with these girls at the time, they might have just been letting me down gently.

I struggle to socialize, let alone flirt. I would sometimes buy girls small gifts before asking them out, but that was because I was unsure how to flirt;it wasn't: "but you have to love me! I spent £ on you!" I never thought I was owed a girlfriend; if I liked them and thought there was a chance they might like me, i'd ask them out.

Incels/nice guys tend to hate women after rejection, but I don't. I would be hurt at the time (especially the first) but that's their decision; they have a right to turn me down. A couple girls have asked me out before, but I didn't feel the same way and turned them down. I feel bad, but i'm also in my right to turn down relationships where I don't feel the same way right?

While I look forward to sex, it isn't the only thing I look for in a woman: I don't care if she doesn't have the biggest boobs or butt. It might sound cheesy, but what I care about most is companionship. A partner to share my life with. I wouldn't fixate on sex so much if it wasn't for me being single at age 20 not being the social norm.

I'd like to think i'm not an incel or at the very least, i'm not anymore. If I am, please help me stop.

I think it's more to do with my social ineptitude and lack of confidence which make me feel I have nothing to offer a girl. Iv'e been going to the gym, having therapy and taking up new hobbies in the hopes of improving myself.

In my life, I have seen a lot of single moms. My mom was also a single mom. She had her first kid when she was 18 with a guy she new for less than 5 months. She then had another kid at age 21 with another guy she knew less than a year. She eventually met my dad 5 years down the road, they dated for 5 years, had me, and they are still together.

My mom told me about her struggles as a single, young mom and even though she loves all her children, she regrets having kids so young. She didn't get to go to college, she didn't get to travel, she didn't get really experience life because she had kids so young.

My older sister did the same thing as my mom. So did my female cousins. They all had kids with men they weren't dating very long and ended up being single mom at a young age.

I am currently 27. I finished college. I have a great job. I'm financially secure... and I have my own home. Getting into the dating world, I keep meeting a lot of single moms who are in my age range with 5-6 year old kids.

I guess I am throwing all this out there, because I don't get the rush to have kids. I understand women have to race against the clock as they age... but it seems people have no chill. What ever happened to finding the right partner, dating for years, enjoying your partner, travelling with your partner, really getting to know your partner and making sure both of you are financially stable to provide for a child?

It seems like people date for a few months before having a kid and they don't get to experience having a fun time with their partner or focus on providing a stable atmosphere for their kid...