What should we look for in a partner? A very important question that we really need the answer to, as it might save us a lot of trouble. The answer to this question could be very chaotic; so many character and physical qualities that we look for, thinking they fit our characters, or that we're attracted to. Sometimes we're attracted to some personality treats that doesn't really fit us, sometimes they are physical treats that doesn't fit us; like a small-sized dude who's really attracted to tall curvy girls, cause this might be a problem as he might not be able to handle her in more than one aspect, Notice that I said "might" twice, cause I know that's not always the case.
The point is that there are many factors that affected the development of our character we don't know about, we sub-consciously want things that aren't really the best for us, those things that we wind up hating a person for at the end, even thought they are the same qualities that attracted us to them in the first place. So we should really know ourselves first before rushing into any type of a relationship, which requires experience, patience and willpower, as it's not gonna be easy to prevent yourself from something you're attracted to, but it's gonna be worth the wait. I know it's somewhat complicated to do all that, and most people don't, but it could be really useful for some people to wait for the right match, because not all of us are capable of handling a heart-break. In any case it's good and important to know yourself, and be able to identify what fits you and what doesn't, doesn't matter which path you're gonna take afterwords, at least now you're prepared.
Now here's my answer to the question I started my post with. In my opinion we should look beyond attraction, and focus on compatibility. Attraction and chemistry grow with time, but compatibility is more rigid, actually compatibility itself is attractive but not vice versa, which is one of the reasons why compatibility is more important. I should also mention that compatibility is flexible at young ages; it can grow if one is welling for the sake of passion involved, but as we grow it becomes more difficult to change, and this is when compatibility is critical and necessary.
Compatibility is when you match on a deeper level, when your true characters match, when you share the same core values and life beliefs, this is when you know you're compatible, for example how you view religion but not religion itself, what's the most important things you both want and value in a relationship, the level of dependency on each other, your general life styles and habits, body proportions and how you view the physical aspects of a relationship, your views about money, carrier and success. Does these things match? If yes, then congratulations, you are compatible and you're more likely to tolerate each other and be partners for life.
Of course as the type of relationship changes the compatibility factors change, the common thing is that you have to really know yourself to know what you need to look for! So how well do you know yourself?!
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