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I read this morning about Whatsapp features that will be added soon – and one of them included a feature which automatically deletes messages after a certain time frame. The article even said it was perfect for cheating lovers and stated it in a way that sounded positive. I think it’s appalling? Why are Whatsapp encouraging secrecy? Everyone is obviously entitled to their privacy of course and no one’s partner should be snooping on their phones and invading privacy all the time. However, there are so many men and women who have gut feelings that their partners are cheating, suspecting something but no evidence. That last resort of checking the phone is either reassurance or confirmation of any activity. I know that if was being cheated on, I would want to know as soon as possible so I didn’t waste another breath on the loser.

People have obviously been having affairs since the dawn of time, but life nowadays makes it easier to cheat with longer work hours, more travel and of course the use of mobile phones. But I always felt that at least this was cancelled out by the fact that it was easier to get caught cheating. I also feel like the culture these days is so sexually free that it almost encourages you to get out there and experiment and go after your desires even if you are in a relationship. Many people aren’t in it for the long haul anymore, they just see people and practically assume they aren’t going to last. Why can’t we discourage cheaters? Make it easier for them to get caught? Cheating does so much damage, sometimes lasting damage on individuals and their confidence and can screw up their future relationships. Most cheaters usually regret their actions or at least aren’t proud of them.

Obviously there are exceptions with everything and feel free to disagree, just no arguments please!

One of my male coworkers and I had genuine feelings for each other but we never made any move because he had a girlfriend. I always kept distance out of respect for that girl. We admitted our feelings earlier this year but he gave me very confusing answer implying its difficult as he and his girlfriend have talked about marriage. I stepped back and avoided him. he realized he has hurt me. after 2-3 months, i noticed what seemed like he was texting on a dating app. I stayed quiet and away. i could tell he had started seeing another woman. In last 3-4 months, he started showing interest in me again. i didn't act as i thought he has a girlfriend.
recently, i got to know that he has bought his own apartment and his girlfriend has not moved in with him. also, he has asked two of my female coworkers if they know rich single woman. clearly he is single again but at work he has not openly come out as that. if i avoid him, he gets very interested in me and flirts with me. yesterday i gave him a box of chocolates for Christmas. he was very happy but after sometime, i heard him loudly mention his girlfriend to another female coworker. it seemed like he was wanting me to hear that (he has done this before too) - sort of pinching me and trying to give the false impression that he is still with her.
i felt so hurt. i really feel like telling him that i know what he is upto recently (he single again, seeing another woman and looking to get introduced to rich single women) and wish him good luck. should i do that or just stay quiet? lastly, i know from his behaviour that he still has feelings for me but is not pursuing me.