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Corey Wayne and Doc Love both recommended to never compliment an attractive woman you just met about her looks. She hears it all the time and it will do nothing to raise her interest level. They do say to compliment her on what she does or something else.

When I was younger I used to compliment attractive women all the time. But it only worked if they ALREADY were very interested in me to begin with. It likely hurt my chances with girls who were on the fence. Made me less challenging and mysterious. They already hear that five times a day

So tonight I stopped by a tanning salon. The girl working by the counter was drop dead gorgeous but I was at least 10 years older than her. She did lock eye contact with for a solid moment though. When I walked in the spray tanning in room (which is next to the front counter) I started to take off my shirt. I then realized the doors weren’t closed. I quipped “it might be a good idea to shut these doors”. The hot girl heard it and laughed. After I was finished I asked for her name. She then asked for mine without me volunteering it right away.

I so wanted to tell her she was very attractive but I stopped myself because she was working in a public place. Next time I see her I’m going to try to start a conversation. If I get a good vibe from her I’ll ask if she’s seeing someone. If not I’ll ask for her number. But should I compliment her?

There's this thing women say along the lines of "state your intentions," there's other ways it's said but it's basically about being up front about what you want.

But the thing is most of the time you don't want only one thing from them -- and I doubt women will only ever want one thing from guys as well.

Like, when I see a girl all I know is that she seems attractive. I know I want to talk to her, everything else is up in the air. Based on our interaction I might want sex or a date or be convinced I want a relationship or I might find they have a personality that deters me from wanting anything other than friendship with them, or I might want all or none of the above depending on what's available and it changes on the fly.

I can't tell you what I want -- not because I'm unsure, but because I want lots of things. I want to have a set of options and then make my decision. I don't see why that would be objectionable. Yet, it seems like girls take issue if you can't tell them exactly "this is what I want" and even if you can they will still take some issue if what you say you want isn't the same as what they want.

I think this is an especially strange thing to demand from someone if you yourself don't have a set thing you can state. But even if you do, I don't think that rendered, "not knowing what you want" to be a problem.