(Disclaimer: After reading the article, I saw a lot of generalization and I know people (women) hate that, so if you think you aren’t like that, then im not talking about you :) )
I apologize for the long...loooong article...
I forgot where I heard it from, I believe someone on GaG mentioned Pickable the dating app. See, I have this habit of checking out new online dating apps and sites, im guessing that though im against it, some part of me hopes one of them actually works, you know. Though I don’t think it can beat the rush of making the approach in real life for me…there’s something about that, something...pure and real.
When I first looked up/researched Pickable, it was like “Pickable: The dating app that is changing dating” or at least that’s what the topic of the article said. As someone who has been very interested in the dating process, I figured “wow, someone has a new idea..”…then I saw “Pickable: the dating app that gives women the power”…that’s when I got a bad feeling started seeing dark clouds. I had to investigate further.
Before I start picking it apart, here is how the app works…”Women start by downloading the app and browsing anonymously. That's right — they don't have to include a photo, bio, or even their name. Men, on the other hand, create a simple profile with their name and photo, as well as an optional bio.
When a woman sees someone she wants to strike up a conversation with, all she has to do is shoot him a photo, which he can either accept and start chatting, or skip and move along.”
Seems pretty simple right? so I downloaded it, and wow…as a guy they are really really anal about making sure you put in the right information and verify everything, so much for simple huh. I still didn’t know what my dark clouds and bad feelings were, I attributed it to caution, and plodded on. After I was done, it asked for a photo, and then it said “become Pickable” after the upload.
The app was designed to make people meet in person, so it uses your location and only people around you can see you. Here’s a fun fact…the moment I saw “…that gives women all the power”…lol…I knew it was going to be disaster. Sure, it’s gonna be popular with the women…anything that empowers em right? But this is the app equivalent of a woman asking a guy out and we all know that is very rare…I noticed the same thing on the app as well.
So after the man “becomes pickable”, he is able to be viewed by women In His Vicinity for a period of 24 hours (that’s another fucking annoying factor), the man can see how many women are on the app in his location and how many views he gets. The concept being, when she sees who she might want to talk to, she would reach out…again..the equivalent of asking a guy out.
There were surprisingly a lot of women who were on it every time I checked, I got a few views, and for the first week of the two weeks I tried the app, I got views…but NO ONE reaching out. Later on during the second week, after I’d switched pics every 24 hours with different themed pics ranging from rags to tuxedos, I got a couple. Which I ignored, I was irritated at the point. Finally, I could define what my dark clouds and bad feelings were.
I have said for a very long time that every woman has a list…guys have theirs too. The difference between both is that guys are willing to bend on their list. So he has 10 things he thinks his ideal woman should have and he meets a girl who only fulfills 7 or 8, he’ll work with it. Women, as far as I've seen do NOT bend on that list, that is why;
1) Many guys have to lie about themselves in order to “become pickable” to her,
2) Women end up making some very bad choices because eventually, the lie can only last so long.
This app ENCOURAGES that list, now she has the power lol…SHE gets to pick (like she wasn’t before), and if all 10 things on that list are not complete or clear in that ONE PHOTO, she won’t. Add that to the fact that she has to make the approach and you can see this app being totally useless considering the goal behind it. I figured a guy would have to tailor whatever photo he uses..to fit the kind of woman he would want to meet up with…I didn’t have the heart to go above and beyond for something I wasn’t going to follow through with lol…maybe that tainted my research. Maybe another time if I wanna try it out again, I can take a pic of me in a fitted custom tux, 3 cars and a white picket fenced house in the background. See how many reach out then. Im not bending over backward for nothing, never did offline, ain't doing it online. For now, I just wanted to see the concept behind the app, and see if women were actually using the “power” It gave em.
I like the fact that the app uses your locale, I like that its geared towards making a face to face meet, hell, personally I like that I can sit back and be chosen AND approached, most of what guys get are dumbass hints, but that’s not really the case…every 24 hours…you get a notification saying “well played”, you are shown your views, chat reach outs and what rank you scored on views in your local area. And if you don’t get any chat reach out, you can
A. Change your pic and try again
B. Add a bio, which is shorter than a twitter post. Not really a bio if you ask me. More like a one-liner.
But again…this app had a good idea, but it missed one HUGE factor…its very own target audience. Women.
We are talking about creatures who would take 3-4 hours getting ready for an event, let’s not even factor in planning time and shopping time for the event, just to get to the event and sit in the corner. Remember High School fellas…? Had to go up to them and Ask to dance…cuz no one was on the floor lol. Come to a dance and not dance smh.
Pickable is doing the same thing…women are given the opportunity to make the choices…but all they want to do…seem to do…is lurk in the background and look. Except this time…the guy can’t see you looking so, no moves are made. So far, I haven’t heard any success stories (no surprises there) …im pretty sure there are none…because it seems like an online version of the same shit that happens offline. The guy has to APPEAR pickable (basically present a lie) to even get a chance. Now it all has to be in just ONE picture lol…yeah, like thats going to happen.
So lastly..i imagined, what if this were the other way around (I imagine that all the time, the other way around) and women were the ones to post a pic and the guys browsed anonymously…after a lot of scenarios..i finally settled on the fact that it would just turn into another Tinder, probably worse, seeing as women would have to make an impression just off of one picture…so im guessing lots of tight or skimpy clothing, in an attempt to look “sexy”, which in turn would make the guys just want sex only. There were close to two thousand women in my vicinity with the app…im guessing the other way around, it would be like ten thousand plus guys.
Bottom-line..Pickable could have been a great idea…they just put too much “power” to the wrong audience. I say they should have gone the questionnaire method if they wanted to use anonymity. The Man fills out a questionnaire as to what he is into and likes, and when the woman anonymously goes on…she gets a list of interests she can check off and is shown just ONLY pics of guys with the similar interests, and when she picks one to “view” their bio and other stuff, she HAS to reach out or it breaks her anonymity and HE can reach out, the choice goes to him.
If not, women will browse forever and never make a choice.
I'm going to try it again as a woman and see where that goes. Anyone else here tried it or wants to try it and tell me how it went?
(If you got this far)
I know there will be a few haters on here who would say that im mad because I didn’t get “expected” results or wasn’t bombarded by chat requests…and that’s why I wrote the article…but let me remind you about the top part of the article when I said I don’t DO dating apps…it involves lying to seem attractive…and I don’t lie...
Secondly…In the middle of the article, I said I wasn’t going to bend over backwards…
Thirdly…this was research purposes only. I work better without a middle man (or middle app). Always have…always will.