Yes, you read it correctly. I can see everybody here dances around this issue and tries to sugarcoat shit. Well, I'm gonna give it to you straight, whether you like it or not.
Remember that famous story of a guy who followed all the rules, did what he was told, and enjoyed every moment of his kickass life? Of course you don't. Because that guy doesn't exist.
Nothing can make a guy uninteresting, boring and repulsive like being nice. Out of all the greatest, most famous action heroes in all movies ever, how many of them were nice guys - ZERO. You think that is a coincidence? Of course not. Nobody can find a nice guy attractive, and the infatuation with their movies and heroes wouldn't be possible if those characters were nice guys.
Think of the ultimate movie badass, the one that makes all the other badass characters seem ridiculous - The Terminator.
What caused people to go apeshit over this character, is the fact that he doesn't give a fuck and he just takes what he wants. At the very beginning, some punks try to make fun of him and assault him - he kills them without giving them even a passing thought. When he needed the phone booth, he just grabbed the guy that was already using it and threw him out. And when he needed to get Sarah Connor, he blew up half of the police station. Clearly, a real life human being can't get away with this shit, because they are not a bulletproof cybernetic organism, but the levels of freedom the Terminator represents are simply magnetically attractive, and have caused people to become obsessed with him for over 30 years and counting.
And you can take anybody as an example - Tyler Durden from Fight Club, many times voted the coolest character of all time, was also not a nice guy. He fights people, pisses in their soups, steals fat from liposuction clinics, plants bombs in buildings and does many other fucked up things. Yet people absolutely lose their shit over him as well. Why is that? Well, why don't we let Tyler, in his own words tell you that
All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I fuck like you wanna fuck, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.
And many, many more. The vast majority of people crave more freedom in their lives, and want more excitement, adventures, but don't have the courage or the resources to actually do so. So when they see somebody who actually is free, they are magnetically attracted to them, whether they are real or fictional. Nobody actually wants to be nice. We have been socially conditioned to be nice, we have been taught that it's the right way. But it's not, they lied to you and they keep doing so.
Women are human beings too, I know, it sounds crazy, but I swear they are, Google it if you don't believe me. So of course they will be attracted to guys who do whatever they want. Everybody is looking for what they lack. All of you guys who want to get a girlfriend are looking for one to get the things you lack, whether it's love, sex, kissing or something else. But chances are, you could all find some toothless crack whore and get her to fuck you or be with you, however you don't want that. Why? Well it's not the kind of experience that would enrich your life. Well, while women don't perceive nice guys as toothless crack whores, they do see THEM as the kind of experience that wouldn't enrich their lives. Subduing to other people's desires, smiling and telling people what they want to hear is readily available to everybody, they don't need a guy for that. Women want a masculine guy, a guy who will take control and make them feel something. They got more than enough boredom in their everyday lives (don't we all), of course they will not choose a guy that is going to increase the amount of boredom and plainness.
And in case you are thinking "well I know Janet, and she fucked that guy who wasn't as cool as Tyler Durden, he is a junkie and a loser" - we all know such cases. The main point is, those guys know how to sell their loser lives as some cool shit. And that's all people, not just women, care about. Nobody gives two fucks what you are like as a person, how do you feel or do you have any spiritual value. If you are shit, but you can sell yourself for chocolate, you win every time. People are superficial as fuck, and a good advertisement will always bring you results.
Now, these two guys I listed both did some pretty fucked up, illegal shit. Does that mean you should all be criminals in order for people to like you? Of course not.
All I'm saying is stop being nice. Stop smiling to people you don't like. Stop telling people shit they want to hear. Speak your mind no matter what. Do what you want, when you want. Lead with your balls and never apologize if they get in somebody else's face. Not only will it make you instantly more attractive, but you will achieve much more in every aspect of life. Nice guys can only achieve average results, at best.
You have only one life, you really want to waste it on being some average uninteresting fuck?
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