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I’m in my mid twenties and never had a relationship. I’ve never been attracted to a guy that liked me back, the only guys that go after me are not my type. I know I am not beautiful but I am not ugly either, I’ve seen far uglier people get a good looking partner. I use dating apps to meet people and I’ve tried almost all, free and paid ones. I just cannot find the right guy and when people say I will, I get frustrated because I know it will not happen for me. I’ve tried messaging guys on the apps myself but it doesn’t work out. And I shouldn’t settle for anyone because I’m “lonely”. I’ve been on dates but it never works out, most fairly attractive women I know get approached by guys. Is there something wrong with me? I don’t think I come across as desperate, I may seem too aloof at times in my opinion. The closest thing I had to a relationship was a fling with someone for a few months, being around him felt like settling.

So I am a very smart girl. Like 4.0, honors college kinda girl. I was raised in a family that if you don't speak up you won't be heard, so I don't cower to anyone. I have a strong sense of character and always say what I feel is right even if there are "consequences" for my actions (like not being favorable to the person who wants to do what I consider isn't right). I am super competitive and have a want to continue to better myself. I have my life for the next 8 years planned out and have already made steps as an 18-year-old college student to make sure I can follow that path. I've had internships in the career I want to go into, am working a job in the career I am pursuing currently as I take 17 hours ( not including the 2 labs I am taking this semester), as well as holding a Vice-President position for a club we are starting up at my university. Where I am from people have told me that if I want a man I need to "make him feel like it" but if I have to help you "feel like a man" are you really one? My personality is very outgoing and I am not super good at picking up body language signals for when I overstep boundaries. With this being said I always ask for verbal consent to continue conversations that may push those boundaries and have only had a problem with this method once when someone wasn't being honest about how comfortable they were so I apologized. My friends say that I am not the one with the problem and that I just haven't found the "right guy'' yet, but am I scary to approach? And if I am is there something I can do to lessen that?
by the way I am pretty with a pretty nice/avereage body. So I don't think its anything physical.