I'm a bit worried about you, girl. I think you've very vulnerable out there. It seems like there's been a string of guys who have shown interest in the physical, but are pretty lukewarm on committing to anything else, even texting you back.
He used you. You got charmed by the accent and his looks. I know the lure of Italians. Some of them have really got the moves (but that's of course true of all guys.) But God, that accent. It drips like honey. And the dark hair. Some are gorgeous. And some have great personalities. But not all. Some are capitalizing on that Italian mystique. This guy should have been a makeout-only guy for you (on account of the distance, for one, and his somewhat sleazy, over-the-top tactics, for another.) Your ears should have immediately pricked up, the hair stand up on the back of your neck, when he said "future together" upon first meeting. Nonsense. You have to make better decisions next time. I don't think you're going to be happy with yourself later if you continue to jump in so quickly like this. At this age, you're almost a sitting duck. Many guys probably want to 'deflower' you (sorry, such a lame phrase), and I have a feeling it might be a good looking, persistent one, not one who really cares about getting to know you.
I'm proud of you though, for not being a passive wallflower, and waiting by the wayside for some guy to sweep you off your feet. You are a modern girl and there's nothing wrong with reaching out, or reciprocating with some enthusiasm when someone shows interest in you. But you need to develop a better filter. I hate to say it, but you need to assume that every guy does just want a hookup. Start with that, and then start working backwards, to see if anyone actually takes the time, without things getting sexual, to get to know you. In the meantime, do have some fun, but make out, etc. Don't get yourself in a situation where you're half naked, and the guy's demanding oral from you, and maybe one of them doesn't stop. Don't jump in, feet first. You're too sweet a soul to throw caution to the wind. You'll regret it later when you feel like you were used.
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I don't feel what you did is necessarily wrong. All of us desire some form of love and attention. So don't beat yourself up too much over it.
Probably the only thing inappropriate was that you two moved too fast. You need to accept the fact that he never really wanted to have a serious relationship with you. I don't think he meant to cheat nor hurt you. He just says what he feels at that spur of the moment, even though he knows it may not be possible.
I don't think it was his intentions to cheat you nor hurt you. I do hope you can find closure and move on. Cry it out, scream or go yell from a mountain top if you have to. Just let it go.
He's just your first in many things and you consider it special. That's it. I think you wanted to go all the way through, but you didn't, and now it's still there because it's not over for you.
I'd say, do it again completely this time, or just never contact him again and let it pass.
And by "keep talking over snapchat" he means, I want nudes from you.
Basically, he just used you and doesn't care for much but to get as much sexual content out of you as possible, for your mental sanity, I'd suggest blocking him.
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You fell for his play. If it's true love. distance doesn't matter. He said all those stuff to get inside you. Be glad you guys don't have a relation since google translator would be a third wheel in your relation
Ah well. Stuff like this happens. Not much you can do.
he's Italian. Don't you ever watch movies? They say/do whatever they have to do to get in your pants. That's it. Only in the movies do they actually fall for the person.
You "caught" feelings, like catching an STD?
You like him?
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