I started to have feelings for this guy, but I think I blew my shot now. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

So me and this guy have been hanging out and talking for over a year. I didn’t want anything from him, so we decided to stay friends. We would hang out and chat, as I felt he was too clingy. I do still have dating apps as we weren’t technically dating. Well I started feeling something for him and the other day I sent over a Snapchat. I will admit I can be a bit of a bitch, but I also don’t check Snapchat often, so I had snapchats from him 4-5 days old. I sent him over a Snapchat but he didn’t respond. He had his snap maps visible and I saw he was on and he still hasn’t opened mine. So I snap texted him asking if I pissed him off. Still nothing. I noticed later in the day he removed his snap maps. I didn’t really think anything of it at the time, but was still questioning why he hasn’t responded to me yet. This morning I did end up texting him telling him I have some questions for him and I haven’t been feeling the best and have something on my mind and to let me know when a good time to call him would be. Still nothing. He’s on his socials and his snap score is going up. I want to call him and see what he says but I’m thinking about waiting till Sunday, as I don’t want to come off as desperate. I just don’t know what to do and he’s really great and I’m afraid I fucked up. What do I need to do to get his attention. Do I call him and see if he answers? Please let me know your thoughts on his matter. Thanks!

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you considered the option of being honest with him about how you feel? It is actually a good way to begin a relationship!

[Vermillion30]

I like someone I may not open their message for a day or two or see them for a week, other days I’m clingy and extremely talkative.

I would call him and if he answers talk to him if not leave a message of what you want to say. If he wants to then he can, this why it’s out of your hands and you tried, so you don’t have to think later “What if I called him”

[bobalife]

5 days is a long time, turned off tbf. But you already reached out couple times and you guys are “friends” give him some space to calm and reach back out. If he don’t, you can reach out again after a week or so.

[sadstrawberry]

No you didn't mess up. His snap score going up means some other girl caught his eyes. And he is definitely fucking her too.

[Anonymous]

Next time you judge someone for being "clingy", remember how you yourself have behaved over the last week.

That said, I would suggest waiting a couple more days to see if he responds. If he doesn't, try calling him. If he answers, great. If not, don't leave a message. Just wait to see if he calls you back. If he does, great. If he doesn't, I think it's safe to say you have no chance with him, and just accept that and move on.

[spartan55]

Stop thinking you will look desperate. You girls are girls are always so retarded about this. I've had many women contact me first, I've thought exactly ZERO were desperate. Stop watching him online and communicate like a real person.

[boggboss]

So u like him but left his messages unread for 5 days?

[Asker]

I just started having feelings for him. It’s like I got to thinking over those last couples days and I was being stubborn but now I think I lost him and I’m gonna start crying about it!

[Asker]

Plus I was a little busy with coaching and stuff and again I don’t look at Snapchat often. I don’t even have the Snapchat notifications on.

[boggboss]

Let's not be stupid here nobody would be happy being left on delivery for 5 days after u messaged him

[Asker]

But again I don’t check snap that often and I told him that. He typically is pretty good on responding. Why now isn’t he responding though? I texted him do I call him and tell him what I’m thinking now and how I feel?

[boggboss]

Because he clearly took it personal most people would being left on delivery for 4-5 days being busy is fine nit going on it is fine sending him a message and forgetting to check if he responded is crazy

[Asker]

I was busy and he knew that I told him. It’s not like I didn’t want to respond to him. I do and I’m wondering what’s going on. I just want to tell him how I truly feel rn. I texted him but he hasn’t responded and I feel like shit as I told him I was sick and have something on my mind. But I got a couple questions to ask him. That was early this morning. Like 5 am when I texted that because I couldn’t sleep.

[boggboss]

Busy for 5 days yeah im not sure who u selling that too mate the vary fact u stated yourself that u know u can be a bitch shows u know u messed up 2 some degree

[boggboss]

Its pretty obvious why he ain't responding he is either doing 2 u what u did to him or he got fed up

[Anonymous]

So now you're only attracted to him because he isn't attracted to you anymore. Yes, you f***ed up. But this is the best possible scenario. Leave him alone and let him meet a woman who appreciates him. Everybody wins!

[MrDaveAPSI]

So what you're saying is you're falling for a guy you've only been "just hanging out" with

Huh, you don't say, LMAO

[nawtee_me]

You did, you messed up and now it is done. Anything you do at this point will justify his actions

[laly520]

u messed it up

better move on

[Anonymous]

You can try blowing his shot.

[boobliker]

try again