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lim·er·ence: near-obsessive form of love... the state of being involuntarily infatuated/obsessed with another person, and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship... Thoughts of the limerent object (or person) are persistent, involuntary and intrusive... This may be caused by low serotonin levels in the brain, comparable to those of people with OCD.
Limerence is characterized by intrusive thinking and pronounced sensitivity to external events that reflect the disposition of the limerent object towards the individual. It can be experienced as intense joy or as extreme despair, depending on whether the feelings are reciprocated...
Basically, it is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoned passion or love, even to the point of addictive-type behavior... Sometimes fantasizing [about the person] is retrospective: actual events are replayed from memory with great vividness...
Physical contact with the object is neither essential nor sufficient to an individual experiencing limerence, unlike with one experiencing sexual attraction...
Other characteristics [of limerence] include acute longing for reciprocation, fear of rejection, and unsettling shyness in the limerent object's presence... feelings of limerence can be intensified through adversity, obstacles, or distance—'Intensification through Adversity'.[14]...
But when rejection seems likely the thoughts focus on despair, sometimes to the point of suicide... Although the direction of feeling (happy vs unhappy) shifts rapidly, with 'dramatic surges of buoyancy and despair',[15] the intensity of intrusive/involuntary thinking alters less rapidly, and only in response to an accumulation of experiences with the particular limerent object...
Limerence can last from a few weeks to several decades, with the average being 18 months to three years.[22]

I came across a really offense prank video recently. The guy in the video decided to prank his girlfriend by calling her ugly. She started crying & responded by saying, "well y would u even want to be together with me if you don't find me attractive?" He responded by saying, "I've always dated girls for personality, I have unfortunately never gotten the chance to date anyone who is hot", but of course this was all a lie for the prank, in reality he does think of her as the most beautiful woman he has ever seen, and is in fact the very reason he asked her out from the beginning. He concluded the video by saying this to her in an attempt to make her feel better (she was still pretty mad at him tho)
Now of course the video got a lot of backlash in the comments, saying that he had gone way too far even if it all wasn't true. I am also quite offended, but for a much different reason. When she said "y r u even with me if you don't find me attractive" I don't think she realized that this statement basically claims that anyone who is ugly, or even just average looking in real life, has no chance in getting a relationship. I know for fact that Im ugly. This isn't just a matter of bad self esteem anymore, I legitimately look like an fn swamp-thing/drunken zombie compared to the average girl of today. The only possible way that I could ever get a boyfriend, is if he loved girls for personality only. According to this video & current media ingeneral, the idea of finding an individual appealing, solely based on what's inside just doesn't happen. Sorry to be hypocritical, but I contribute to this possible stereotype, but most likely inevitable part of being human. I have only ever had a crush on a cute boy. Never have I had a crush on someone with average appearance, yet somehow I feel entitled to attention from somebody gorgious, with no more then an average complection myself. It just doesn't work. Pls add to the poll, or comment below about ur thoughts. Thanks.

This question has probably been asked tons of times before.

Bringing it up now cause of Trumps actions to speak to video game execs about the violence in games. Instead of dealing with the real issue.

Video games have been used throughout the last 30 or more years as a scapegoat for violence in society. Whenever there's any debate. Politicians love to go after video games.

I have been gaming since 3. All my life. So you may feel I have some bias. Which I might. But let me just say. My opinion is no. They do not cause people to be violent...

But, and this is the only leeway I give it. This applies to movies, books, anything really. They can influence an ALREADY disturbed individuals thoughts and they could do something awful.

Now to be clear this is NOT the movies or the games or the books fault. They hold 0 responsibility.

That person as I stated is usually already unstable. Emotionally or mentally and they might have stuff trigger them more than others.

So that's the only link I can admit to. Despite it being insanely rare. Someone who is already disturbed can be triggered by any form of violence.. And that's on them. Not the product.

Now I personally believe 10 year olds shouldn't be playing GTA. Even though I was. But don't need to be 18 either. I say 13 or older would be an okay age.

So parents blaming games for there 6 year old swearing and wanting to mimic the fighting game. That's on them. Kids mimic everything they see.

Now I've rambled enough. I like to hear others opinions.