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So, I was texting a friend of mine (actually discussing a MyTake; How to become attractive to women. How to stop fearing women. A guide for dudes who are UTTERLY HOPELESS with women. ), and how I have my own issues with women; mainly being short, ugly, dark, fat/obese, etc. (things I'm all somewhat okay with, aside from the height, but they are not).

And my internal struggle is whether I should give up women altogether, since it seems to be an effort in futility and a massive waste of time and energy, or keep trying to find someone special while working on improving myself (like the author of that MyTake said). Most of my improvement needs to come from within and focusing on being stoic and more calm and accepting with myself, and the outside world, which I kinda hate.

Really, I can't/don't want to, do both. I can either focus on myself and my own happiness, or seek love, companionship, sex, intimacy, etc, from women. I know people always say "you need to be fine with yourself first," but... That's kinda bullsh*t. And it's coming from people who already have a ton of self-esteem and generally zero issues with dating. On some days, I feel like the MGTOW crowd has it right all along and I should just focus on self-growth and happiness. And on other days, I'm just ridiculously lonely, and see how other people, who put in less than a fraction of the work I do on self-improvement, still have these happy, amazing relationships.

So I was discussing all of this with my female friend. And while she didn't give me an answer to the problem, because she's a romantic and loves love (and also a woman, so can't relate to what it's like to be alone indefinitely and unable to meet someone), she did tell me that line.
"25 to 33% of all women are bitches." Implying I SHOULD stop focusing on them.

And I can't exactly disagree. I know; in Current Year; you're NEVER not supposed to kiss women's asses at all times, but like I said, their asses aren't worth kissing.

women don't care who bring home the bacon lettuce tomato cheese as long as you treat them right and listen and understand them... sike!; its all theater, they do care in fact the care to a prejudice on who they are seen with (hence why you see or respect without question tall dude/ short girl relationships and question the challenge Tall girl short dude relationships. yeah how many relationships do you honestly see like that) by a certain point you gain a sixth sense for it and relate/ realize that the sexes relate to another through socially acceptable needs and bond over it. Relationships are just another form of communication and you display what you want people to think of you using your partner. however this is more at the mans expense and he has to have more corporeal/ collateral to even get up to Bat (women tie their self respect to just how much more the man has then her the don't allow men to do this/ it is short lived). So it is no surprise that a lot of Men get frustrated when they invest into a woman only to find out that it is truly a man or trans-woman; the problem is obvious that consent and knowledge play a huge role in the anger and frustration that a lot of men feel. This robs the men of choice, power, right to make a decision based on confidence and takes the sexuality out of ambiguity adding fear. And women couldn't care less/ think its funny when a man end up in this conundrum; and they force there hand. On a woman's hand this is not a trivial factor and dose-not affect/effect so much. I however how come up with some options to discuss and want your vote or suggestion. Which idea do you think would convey this idea heavier to the opposite sex?