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Would you like if your friend asked you how you were doing after a breakup?

My female friend/colleague had a breakup last month. She didn't tell me about it but considering her behaviour is back to normal and she's fun to talk again, it's obvious that she is no longer in a relationship. She changed when she was in a relationship and I distanced myself. I was a bit turned off about it because I thought we were friends so she should have told me. Like she told me about this guy when she met him but not when they got into a relationship. And I personally don't want to talk about her personal life anymore tbh because I am afraid that I'll fall for her so I wanna keep my distance. But I am still worried about her. What should I do? Should I talk to her about it? Or should I leave it?

my mom was and still is a pretty toxic person. she divorced my dad when I was 3 and took me away from him and then decided to poisoned my head by telling me that it was his fault, that supposedly he never loved me and left me for her to raise me on her own.

I dont even know where to start on all the things she used to do to me while growing up. she used to

• take out all of her everyday stress and frustration out on me
• she used to scorn me whenever I stood up for myself
• always compared/contrast me with my cousins and kids of her friends who supposedly did things better than I did
• limit my friends
• limit my hobbies
• used to take off and leave me behind with relatives and other friends of hers

but it obviously couldnt just end there, as I got older she used to

• treat me like I always her husband
• was obligated to get a job and help out with spending (even though my stepdad made enough)
• pressure me to move out and "get out of her life" literally on a daily basis
• always looked for an excuse to pick fights with me and then acted like a victim when I would retaliate

and the list goes on. After High School I've become a toxic cunt magnet myself, in fact I have 2 older brothers who were in and out of toxic relationships as I grew up. I used to watch them go through all that hell that I promised myself that I will stay single because I dont want to be like them. but again whenever I break this promise the women I show interest or show interest in me always end up showing their true colors later on and end up repulsing to me.

till then I was always told that us humans will always be bound to attract or be attracted to people like our parents. Celebrities like Eminem are a prime example of this as well. so I was wondering should we children of toxic parents just remain single forever? is this our only antidote for peace?

So like I’m a guy and my impresion was “who gives a f*ck, you’re no longer with him anymore”.

I just don’t understand why women can’t just let go and forget about the past.

There’s nothing you can do to change it.

In life you should only move forwards and never look backwards.

Nevermind that one of her other exes cheated on her THREE TIMES and she kept coming back to the dude.

So I’m starting to reconsider whether or not she’s actually worth dating.

This is a girl who doesn’t quite seem mentally sound or stable. It’s common sense not to return to somebody if they’ve already broken your trust.

Because as nice as she is, this girl brings out a hell of unneccessary drama in my opinion.

And I genuinely don’t think I’m willing or capable to deal with any of it.

But then again, perhaps more women are like this than I previously thought.

Either way I can’t understand why she is still emotionally tied to people in her past, because I’ve since forgotten about everyone in my hometown ever since I went off to college.

So as it currently stands my relationship with her has just been “scratching along the surface” if you will.

We’ve been meeting regularly a couple of times a week but so far as relationship status goes its been exclusive but unofficial.

So as strange as it is, my impression of her has changed in the past 24 hours.

Before I thought she was just this friendly outgoing girl who gets along nicely with everybody, but now I’m realizing she could turn out to be a real piece of work I don’t want to get involved with. We have a lot in common and share the same interests, and I thought our personality differences compliment eachother nicely, but now I’m questioning whether or not this could ever possibly work

Either way I’ve decided to give things some more time and let it play out.

I might have to deal with her sometimes when I don’t want to, but I guess that’s the cost of a relationship.