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To me it seems the old ideas of marriage are long gone. That you fell in love with someone so much you want to spend the rest of your life with them--no matter what happened you stay together and build a life. Now, I'm not talking about cheating. To me, you shouldn't be getting married if you're not in the mindset that your sexual days are now all with one person (this goes for either person) and that its not about sex anymore but having a loving connection. That you marry a person you are completely honest with (if you look fat in the jeans, you look fat in the jeans) and you both trust each other completely. For instance, if one person wanted to go to the gym at 11 o' clock at night, the other would be so secure in the relationship that they know the other person is not lying, is actually going to the gym (and they are), and the mutual trust allows for a stable relationship.

I honestly don't know why people get married these days. With all the access to people with online dating and purely hook up websites, it seems that so many people (ranging from 20-40 because I've talked to quite a lot of people in that range, which pretty much covers the dating pool) don't want a connection, want a fling, and everyone looks out for themselves. I used to want to get married sometime in my 20's (should it be later in life?) and know that I was with someone I was going to have a lot of memories with, go through hard/fun/crazy times with, and eventually we would have built up our life and travel, see the world, meet people, and stay faithful to each other.

If you are married, why did you get married? What is the general experience of marriage? Some reasons why marriages don't work out?