Canceled date. Oh no, where do I go from here?
You've had a good amount of conversational exchange with this person.
You've laid out the outfit you plan to wear for tonight.
The location of where you both will meet has already been established.
This is the night you've been waiting for!
You have all of this anxiety built up.
You cannot wait to spend time with your date!
All of those feelings of excitement and positivity have become short lived,
because you have just received a text message, that your date has just been canceled.
Your stomach feels empty.
It begins to do knots.
You are experiencing disappointment.
"How could this be?
When things seemed to have been going perfectly?" you ask yourself.
You respond almost immediately to let the person know you've gotten their message.
You hide your disappointment and respond,
"It's alright. I understand."
Their excuse seems solid but your mind beats itself up, because you are now left wondering
"Is this the truth?"
"Is this person no longer in to me?"
"Did they meet someone else?"
"How can something be going so well? Only to do a full turn around overnight?"
Rejection often brings us to a lonely place.
You are in a room that suddenly seems dark.
All you see is yourself.
You stare at your reflection in the mirror, questioning every minor detail about yourself.
One of the things that seems to replay itself the most,
is the very last conversational exchange you had with this person;
where all seemed well.
"Maybe I did this wrong"
"No, maybe I did that wrong".
"Wait, maybe it was everything!"
Hello! I am your intuition. I am advising you to please stop!
Save yourself the stress and exit this world of self doubt.
Continuing to play out things over and over in your mind will drive you nuts!
The clock begins to turn, a few days have now passed.
You still have not heard from your "date".
You feel major temptation to text this person yet again, but
you quickly remind yourself that it's not a good idea.
I know your anxiety is now at an extreme overload!
I know you are fighting the urge to message this person.
I know there are a lot of unanswered questions.
But what I want you to understand is,
if someone wanted to keep contact with you,
If someone was really into you, nothing would
keep them from you.
Texting or calling the person will not change the fact.
If someones mind is made up, it is made up!
After your date has canceled, allow that person space.
As the days continue to progress, if there is still no efforts on their part to contact you,
it is clear from their actions that their excuses for canceling the date, were those of avoidance.
This is hurtful.
I know you didn't see this coming, but please understand they are allowed that right.
I know you want answers, but how many questions don't have any?
You must come to terms with this reality.
Dating is most often times unpredictable.
It leads to a road of uncertainty.
This will probably happen more times to you,
than you would like during the dating process.
Trust me, in not every case it is a problem with you.
Sometimes the person has a fear of getting close because of their past trauma.
Or maybe the realize, they aren't ready to go forward because their heart is still with someone else.
It isn't up to you to fix a problem that lies on their shoulders;
that is preventing their growth.
Let some more time pass.
In the essense of it,
you will meet someone new and feel the anxiety;
once again of excitement.
You two snuggle birds have just planned a date!
I wish you the best!
You'll eventually find what you're looking for.
But be prepared for anything, because dating can be one heck of a rollercoaster!