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If you *had* to lean more to one side or the other, no in between. A fun and interesting question that came to mind.

Descriptions

The Legionary: The civilized gentleman. Discipline, loyalty and virtue are core values, he is the sophisticated man who reins in his uncouth impulses and urges in favor of "dignitas". The legionary man believes in the rules of society (most often) and gladly adheres to them. Structured and organized in life, ambitious in his career and life, the legionary aims to uphold, protect and serve purposes greater than himself. The legionary man has no issue nor shame about being openly subservient to a higher power, be it his earthly government or his faith. For he sees the larger picture of life and realizes the folly of pride and self-enhancement.

The barbarian: The rugged bad boy. The barbarian is the wild soul, the untamed and the dangerous. The barbarian man embodies raw strength and brutal courage, he's the free spirit who does not play by the book and sees greater value in doing what he believes to be right at any time. Freedom, following the heart and originality are his creeds. The barbarian can be an unpredictable man, but it does not make him a bad man. He is his own master, and will not kneel to anyone simply because of societal notions. He fights for what he believes is the immediate good of himself and those he loves. The barbarian sees nothing wrong with natural impulses and urges and can often let himself be guided by them.

There is a "bro code" that says this on the subject: don't do it. Never.

You ask your friend's permission and he may feel obligated to give you permission even though he still has feelings for his ex. So then he realizes that you are spending nights with her and he suddenly feels an urge to let the air out of all your tires. Or people assume that she must have been cheating with you when she was still dating him. Or she tells you things about your friend that would potentially change your friendship but. . . is she telling you the truth or trying to break up your friendship? Why would she want to break up your friendship? Maybe's she's afraid that your friend/her ex will start telling you some uncomplimentary things about her and she wants to put you in a position where you will not believe him. Imagine that you fall in love with the girl and decide you want to marry her. Are you going to invite him to the wedding? Make him the best man?

What could go wrong?

Of course, things won't go wrong every single time this happens, but it seems like a very strong possibility. I've never done it and I've never even considered it. What's your experience on this subject?