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Up until very recently many men were been raised to not treat women as harshly as other men when they cross the line (being disrespectful, unreliable, verbally abusing or even hitting men). Chivalry taught men that the fairer sex was more “delicate” when it came to hostility including nasty language.

Now angry guys might lose it and attack with sexual insults (slut, whore, cunt, etc.). But how often do you hear men calling women words such as mother f*ckers, douche bags, piece of sh*t, etc? Every once is a blue moon a guy might call a girl a douchebag. But the other non sexual yet nastier insults not as much.

I had a former gal pal try to contact me on LinkedIn a few days ago. She had ghosted me without warning two years ago.
She sent a fake canned message like “hey how are you? I hope you are doing well during this time. Ya de yah”.

But being ghosted is one of the worse insults you can do to someone (she blocked me on social media). So after giving her a curt message I responded to her second canned message with “you know Mary you got a long ways to go if you want to make it up to me. You call yourself a alpha female (she really did say that) but in reality you are beta piece of sh*t. I think karma needs to knock you around a bit more into you come to your senses. Deep down I hope you change. But again you have a ways to go. Don’t ever contact me again”. I then blocked her.

Now what I said above is real out of character. But I took her message as fake bs ploy to placate her own guilty conscious. She wanted to feel better about herself but not apologize for what she did.

I would have reacted differently if she messaged me saying “hey Zach what if did a while back was totally wrong. I don’t know what I was thinking, but I wish I could of handled it better”. But she didn’t say that.

Anyway it felt good to call her a piece of sh*t. It does go against my upbringing, spiritual beliefs, etc. But covid-19 is giving me less patience.

To reduce the difficulty in relationships and care and feeding of yourself, would it be fun and helpful to write a manual to properly care for yourself and/or your partner. The idea of this is both helpful and humorous to understand yourself and others. Whether you write it for yourself or the other is up to you.

Examples only... your manual will be different. Write it like a car manual...
Her:
* Unit requires frequent maintenance including verbal support like:
a. meaningful "I love you"
b. ensure important dates are remembered and celebrated with appropriate gifts.
* Warnings: Do not use sarcasm. Unit was abused by sibling and does not respond well to this humor.
etc..
* Hormonal swings will be substantial. At such time, please review all maintenance procedures to ensure success during this time.

His:
* To get unit "in the mood", requires the following suggested procedures...
a. <list procedures suggested>
* Warning: Verbal abuse can lean unit to shut down emotionally and disconnect. Caution is noted with selection of words. Maintenance required, please see maintenance section of manual
* Warning: Unit does not like cleaning house and you will not change him. If you do not like this feature, select a different unit.
*

You are angry at every man
You believe we were all born bad
See yourself is the victim every time

You didn’t get along with your dad
I can tell that it made you mad
Now you’re taking it out on every guy

And if someone says something you don’t like
You just go running for your safe space
Come on, it’s time for you to man up
Time to stop being a total disgrace
It’s time that you face…(the truth)

You’re just mad that you can’t get a man
So you hold us to blame
But if no one ever wanted to love you
Maybe it’s you that needs to change

You don’t care about men at all
Try to stop, women from being hurt no matter how small
But if men are hurt bad, it’s nothing to you

How do you think you'll find a boyfriend
When you're so hostile to men?
Maybe forever loneliness is for you! Yeah!

And if someone says something you don’t like
You just go running for your safe space
Come on, it’s time for you to man up
Time to stop being a total disgrace
It’s time that you face…(the truth)

You’re just mad that you can’t get a man
So you hold us to blame
But if no one ever wanted to love you
Maybe it’s you that needs to change

Oh you claim that you're so tolerant
But your actions prove that's a lie
Well I long for the day when you realize
You're the very thing that you claim to despise
Yeah! Yeah! Yeah!

You’re just mad that you can’t get a man
So you hold us to blame
But if no one ever wanted to love you
Maybe it’s you that needs to change