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This was between my mother and my first step dad, I was 13 at the time.

(You can skip this paragraph if you want) So my mother and my mom and my first step dad were together for 8 years married for 6. He became very bitter and selfish and his drinking went out of control, he worked 3rd shifts and when he was home all he did was drink beer and played Pogo on the computer. He became so lazy that he'd not even shower for a month at a time. He also became jealous that my mom made more money than him so he kept all his money to himself. So mom got fed up and wanted a divorce.

(This is the real part) My mom gave him the divorce papers and he refused to sign it, and he tried to manipulate my mom into coming back with him. My mom told him that he has 3 month to sign or she's going to move on anyways. So he still refused to sign and still tried to manipulate my mom, so she went on and started dating again. I will admit that she was having one night stands while looking for a partner. My stepdad took everything from her and left her and her 13 year old son (me) homeless for a couple months. Eventually the court made a default divorce (or something like that, I don't know about this stuff).

At the time I was 13 and I had no business of knowing what was going on, bit now that I'm an adult and my mom was able to tell me, and I don't know what to think.
One side of me thinks that it was OK since my step dad refused to sign the papers and tried to manipulate her and yook everything.
But at the same time I don't approve of her dating and sleeping around while she was still legally married, and 3 months seemed a bit quick to move on from an 8 year relationship.

What do you think?

Let me just start off by saying that my mother isn't the worst mother in the world, and she wasn't outright abusive (or at least I don't think she was), but I just think she failed as a parent, but it's not entirely her fault because she picked most of this stuff up from her mother.

She was sleeping around with a couple different men at the time I was conceived so we don't know who exactly my biological father is. This made me uncomfortable with sex even till this day.

She let me drink Coke since I was 2 followed up by more unhealthy habits which let me to struggle with obesity my entire life.

When she was mad at someone that wasn't around she would take it out on me. Usually by yelling at me when I asked what's for dinner, I still struggle to ask questions to people.

She didn't let me do boxing as a kid so I can stand up to my bullies. She said it was too dangerous.

There were a couple of times she choked me for being clumsy as a kid.

She married a drunk for my first step dad.

She never tried to understand my issues. I once tried to tell her that I was having suicidal thoughts and she just threatened to put me in a mental hospital and said "I could've just aborted you."

She put cigarettes and weed before food.

She always fought my battles for me, even till this day and I never learned to be a man.

She's very lazy and always procrastinates and is irresponsible with money which didn't set a good example.

She never really payed attention to me as a kid because she was focused on my older siblings.

She cared more about my grades than my mental health. I started experiencing symptoms of Schizophrenia and depression at 14 and my grades started slipping especially after my grandmother dies when I was 16. I was just a lettet to her and she made me feel worthless.

She basically dumped me in the failing school system's lap and expected them to turn me into a man, and the school system just put me on aderall which gave me Tourettes.

But I still love my mother