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I had 2 other people that I was talking about a topic with. Person 1 was feeling upset about some stuff and wanted to talk, Person 2 and I asked him what's wrong. Basically Person 1 was thinking about past bullying that basically happned through thier entire childhood due to thier behavior. Person 1 is diagnosed with ADHD and Asperger's and felt bad for being bullied for stuff that wasn't his fault. He basically hot bullied for hyperactivity associated with ADHD, which led to him being annoying, and other behaviors that involved not fully understanding social rules that came with Asperger's. And I'm assuming that both of these combined led into him just beinf "weird" overall such as talking a lot or not paying attention in class, talking about "weird" things and just being annoying overall.
Person 2 basically told him "Well, you were responsible for your own repercussions (in this case, bullying) because at the end of the day, you are still responsible for your actions, disablilty or not"
This kind of led into a small debate between me and Person 2. My reasoning was basically that he shouldn't have been bullied for. Rather, people with things with ASD and ADHD or anything similar should work towards being understood and helped, not bullied.
Person 2 said that we can't be upset about the reactions he got growing up, because the actions were unacceptable whether he liked it or not. Person 2 said that the bullies are not at fault for reacting.
So I asked Person 2 is Person 1 deserved the bullying. Person 2 said he deserved it.
I disagreed and said people don't deserve bulkying for something that is for the most part, uncontrollable. Since he never asked to have either ADHD or Asperger's. Especailly if he (as a kid at least) try to improve and was unsuccessful in doing it. I understand if he needed improvement in these departments, but bullying wasn't required for that.

So basically GaG, please help me out a bit.
Who do you agree with and what is your reasoning?