We know each other since we were 9/10 years old. We started talking when we were 17. We talked very little. Nothing more than necessity. After 6/7 month break at the age of 19 I started talking to him again. Gradually we started talking about everything. He is a introvert, funny, shy person. He only laughs and talks seriously to his closest friends. We are not in love sort of relationship. He shares own information or thoughts with me that he would never utter before other people. In many ways he proved i am important to him. Once i made it clear that i do not want to be his duty or i do not want him to do anything for me because he feels like he should. I didn't want to be burden, i wanted to be HIS WANT. So, I never push him. When i want to know anything i precisely ask. Sometimes he doesn't answer and goes to another topic and i do not interfere. If he replies too late i never ask where he has been or why he didn't reply. If he tells me that he went to this or that place or shows me pictures i do not ask with whom he went or why. Twice/thrice or more in years when we wanted space we used to say each other "i am going for a break. Talk to you later." This break used to last for 2-5 days. It was ok until now. In last 3 months we didn't even had conversation for 10 days in total. He is going to breaks , after 14-20 days later comes, talks normally as if nothing happened then 2/3 days later again declares another break. If there is anything urgent he asked me to text him. He is still in break. It's day number 21. If he comes back should i ask? if i ask what should i ask?
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Ask him casually that you noticed he goes for longer period is he feeling more down than usual. But i dont know what type relationship u have with him.
As introvert I can disappear for half year or year. If i can't see person in face to face i dont really see that much value in chit chatting for bunch of nonsense seems like waste of time. I enjoy spending time in person. So i just make new friends wherever i go and let other friends go their own way.
Sometimes we go for morning walk together, sometimes we watch movies on discord, sometimes we talk all night over phone. We mock each other etc. It's ok if he doesn't want to talk to me ever but he needs to tell me that.
I didn't tell any of my friends that i dont want to talk to them ever. Because its not true I dont have bad relationship with any of them. So im not sure if that is proper approach that you want from him its more emotions speaking rather than logic.
I meant another way. Like clear ignorance or something. But when he comes he behaves like nothing happened then goes to "break" again. Do you think i should behave like i am indifferent to whatever he is doing?
Before telling you what I think you should do, tell me how would you handle this situation if you were in his shoes and you needed disappear for some unknown time? What would you do? What kind message would you send to yourself?
Let me tell you how i handled before. I disappeared many times before saying "i am feeling this or that (or said i am not feeling good). I guess bit of isolation will help me to revive. Don't worry about me. I'll be okay. Take care."
Thats okey message i guess. To me it sounds like someones about to commit suicide tho. And leaves me worried and stressed.
You can just send him some message here and there, i remember went i need break its not like i block them its just maybe go instead for everyday chat to once a week chat.
In reality it is that way. My bad days are literally too bad but i don't want him to worry
From regular contact to no contact at all is... I don't know how to say. He is not active on social media either. Weirdos