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I could not understand why I'm being told I'm not being "cultural" enough as a kid. Sit straight, legs down. Etc.

Truth be told, when you're yelled at for not sitting right in a way that feels life threatening, it only makes your body involuntarily curl up and put your feet up again. That's just fear response.

Well that's my oldest memory of eating food, a daily occurrence.

But then you do learn to sit straight but you chew really really really fast. And you have old people tell you SLOW DOWN, MY DOCTOR TOLD ME TO CHEW SLOWLY, IT IS HEALTHIER.

I assume that means, when they were younger they lived through the same shit.

And then i would hear on podcasts how chewing slowly makes us digest food better. So? Self torment. Just move like a robot. Sudden movements and pauses. Of course i am exaggerating. And i have to, because i am fully certain that more people in the world do a degree of this than not.

And that is the difference between eating and devouring: baseline stress levels. You think you're fine. You truly do. But your body does not.

And, by the way, i really really hope someone will listen to this piece of advice: Never say "I'm fine" if you have even a smallest, quantum sized doubt that you are.

If you do, we cannot be friends. But you are allowed to say "i just don't know, i do not feel at ease."

Not because i haven't figured it out already. But because it is a lie and is harmful to both parties.

But back to the main topic. I LOATHE devouring food greedily. It disgusts me. As soon as i take a bite too huge, i lose appetite, i remember my dad and his friends devouring foodstuff like pigs. Feeling a sense of disgust is good, feel as much of it as you can to train your body not to repeat it. But it isn't not enough, you also need honesty.

For many years i struggled to be different. Now, i am relaxed and perfectly doing the "cultural" thing they all tried to mimic and failed. Just relax and slowly, quietly eat your biologically blessed food.

Do you think women who reject modern feminism are thinking for themselves, or are they mainly indoctrinated?

My answer is independent.

Rejecting modern feminism does not automatically mean a woman is indoctrinated. In many cases, it can actually reflect independent thinking, because modern culture often treats feminist assumptions as the default and socially acceptable position.

Many women critically evaluate modern feminist narratives and conclude that those ideas do not align with their values, life goals, faith, or lived experiences. Choosing motherhood, family, traditional gender roles, modesty, or complementarian beliefs does not make a woman less capable of thinking for herself. She may simply have examined the arguments and reached different conclusions.

True independence means having the freedom to define empowerment and success on your own terms, not only within frameworks approved by mainstream ideology.

Too often, calling anti-feminist women “indoctrinated” just means, “I respect women’s choices only when they choose what I approve of.”

That is not empowerment. That is ideological gatekeeping.

I 100% experienced it in the last couple days. Someone terrorized me growing up so badly and then terrorized even more if i tried to get help, lured in to make me ask for help only to deny it, that his words seemed to linger even in those people actually offering help.