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I’m in my late 30’s and for 10 months I've been dating a man that has been separated from his wife for 18 months now. My kids know him and he’s very cool with my two teen sons. When we first started dating we both agreed that neither one of us was looking for a serious relationship, but it just kind migrated that way over time. I know all his family and have spent time with them on many occasions. I haven’t met his teen kids yet though. We don’t go to church together because he still attends church where he and his wife attended when they were together and she still attends as well. He feels it wouldn't be right for him to bring his girlfriend to church while he’s still married and I agree. However, when I bring up what he’s doing about his marriage, he says he’ll deal with it in his own time.

We've discussed a possible future, but I don’t see how he can be serious if he isn't even ready to end his marriage. He asked me to be patient, but I decided recently to end things. I’m an attractive, financially stable spiritually grounded woman and have a great career that I love. I ended things because I feel like the other woman. He says I’m not but that’s how I feel. I ended things and told him to go get his life right and come find me when he can be a man who is proud to proclaim me as his girlfriend to any and everyone. He says he loves me and I’m not being understanding since I've been through a divorce myself. But I told him I know my worth, I love him but I loving him doesn't mean I should have to compromise my love for myself.

I’m asking for people’s opinion because since this didn't start out with the intentions of being more, am I wrong for, not being patient? If he could tell me he was definitely ending his marriage I would have stayed in the relationship. But I have self-esteem … And I just think if he really loves me and wants me in his life, then he’ll figure out his marriage and get his life in order to be with me…