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Basically, like how plus size models are becoming more normalized and whatnot.
Ashley Graham made headlines when she was featured in that Sports Illustrated magazine.
Tess Holliday also made a name for herself in the plus and modeling community.

Then there are these models posting break downs about how much scars they have and how it's damaging to think they're perfect etc.

Do you like the "normal/average" models or do you prefer them to be the best of the best?

Personally, I feel like a lot of the "diverse" models are just being shoehorned in for "diversity sake". It's kinda like AA, where the minority/women quota just means they get mediocre people as opposed to the more qualified. I'm not saying that minorities can't be qualified, however. Just that many mediocre make the cut because of a quota.

But I feel that's what's happening with these models too. Sure, don't feel bad that you have scars or stretchmarks. But I don't see why it's so necessary to keep emphasizing it. It's starting to become cliche. Don't get me wrong, a lot of them are beautiful and talented. But not all yet they still make it because of their "diversity novelty".

And call me shallow, because I am, but I don't want to see someone like me modeling. Acne is not attractive lol
I want to see someone attractive modeling so I can imagine it's best potential. Those sexy panties or dress or whatever, I want to see it on a hot chick so I can *feel* like a hot chick too when I buy it lol
I am glad that they are cutting back on photoshop though. And I am glad they're including "diverse" beauties like Ashley Graham, yes I think she's extremely attractive. I just don't care much for when it's "forced".

Keep in mind that all this diversity and body positivity gave us this goddess lol:

So I guess for as long as I can remember I've had a wall up and it left me with shallow friendships and feeling alone. Through the years I've broken that wall down a lot and have some amazing friends and a good social life.

The issue is that I'm pretty detached. By that I mean that there is still a bit of separation between me and everyone in my life, like I won't let myself fully commit or FULLY feel anything for anyone. I mean I love my friends and family to death and I'm a empathetic and sympathetic person but at the core of my soul I keep that mind set that it's just me and that, that's all I need and all I should really need.

Some friends and family have told me that although they still like/love me I come off as aloof or that nothing really bothers me... my sister used the lovely term "detached".

Now ironically, I do feel very deeply and I'm quite sensitive actually hence why I keep partial walls up and why I keep things close to the chest.

So while I do have SOME traits of being detached, I also have many that make me easily attached (which I really want to get rid of)

-Is it bad to be detached... to an extent?
-Is it bad to not pour all of your emotions out, or to only show the emotions you want to share?
-Should we be more of an open book and be honest with how you feel all the time?

* I should add that I'm very happy and content with who and how I am right now, it's others that feel this way. I think I'm well adjusted and pretty spiritually aligned with myself/the universe.