This was a fun and different kind of Take for me to write. In all my interactions and relationships with women through the years, I’ve noticed some very interesting things about them, both good and bad. The things I list here are not going to be your usual cliches and safe points that a lot of guys try to stay close to, but sincere experiences that I’ve had. I’m sure there will be females - and some males - who will try to tell me how wrong I am, and that’s fine. But they are things that I’ve seen.
And, yes, I could’ve made it a list of “10 Things” this or “12 Things” that, but that’s what everyone else redundantly does, the usual overdone way of things, and as a lot of you know, I don’t like following the crowds. So I chose to leave a number out.
Women react to excitement more…
It’s true. Not that I’m saying guys don’t get excited, but when a female does it’s almost reflex, very expressive, and very enjoyable to see. Some magicians who teach new students say that females are some of the best people to do magic tricks with because they will often react in wild excitement more than guys do, which can help make a new magician feel more at ease and more confident in doing tricks.
It can be very enjoyable and even satisfying for a guy to see a woman show her excitement, especially in bed. But overall it just makes you feel good to see that you thrilled a woman about something.
Females are a lot quieter than we realize…
Although we say women can never stop talking and always have to have something to say - which can still be true - at the same time, women can also be very quiet and reserved. It’s said that females are more “social” and outgoing while men tend to be more introverted, yet I am surprised at the number of women I’ve met throughout my life who are very introverted, say little even with other women, don’t like being social, and are shy. And it has seemed to be men who are mostly more comfortable with speaking and being social and are more relaxed and don’t take themselves that seriously, so I’m not sure how true science’s gender stereotype is.
I’ve even come into contact with countless females online who don’t say much, and when I ask why, they say they’re shy or actually admit that they’re not good with talking to guys. Although the public concensus of females would never admit having confidence issues or know-how in talking to guys, it actually is the case a lot more than most of us think.
Women are no less “visual” than men…
From a young age we’re taught that men are visual and women aren’t, and it doesn’t really add up. Women are definitely visual creatures. If a woman can be visual with other women’s bodies and looks and even proclaim them to be sexy, then they can certainly do the same thing with men. But from what I’ve seemed to learn, females have a kind of pride where they want to seem like they’re above showing visual appeal in men because they don’t want to seem “shallow” or as if they lack self-control, since they often view men that way for being visual. So when they’re visual with other women it can sometimes be a sort of way of saying, “I would rather praise another woman for being good-looking before I do it to a guy.”
It’s also commonly said that guys will sleep with any woman, even ugly ones, while women don’t want to sleep with ugly men. If this really is true, it would actually prove that women must be more visual than men.
I remember when I was on okcupid, a woman I talked to said she wasn't interested in me, even though I wasn't interested in her either, I just liked her because she was a Californian. Even still, I was curious to know why exactly she wasn't interested, just to hear her honesty. And the first thing she said was my looks weren't her type. I wasn't offended but appreciated her honesty, and I told her that. So I definitely think women are more visual than they really admit.
Females tend to give more gestures...
By this I mean in thinking of some of the little things, like notes and cards. Although we live in times where people period are losing more warmth and thoughtfulness towards each other, it's still much more common for a female to send a card, gesture, or even an email wishing someone well, congratulating them, or showing how they were thinking of them.
Males will just say to you personally how much they liked something or how they were thinking of you - which is still good - but when a female goes out of her way to show it with a special gesture, it's always nice. Even with emoticons. According to a study Stephen Colbert found, females use emoticons in texting much more than males do, which could be true (though is sometimes even kind of annoying for me when they use a lot of them, lol). I use them pretty often, but not like a lady does, lol.
Women hate it if you understand something about them they don’t see…
One thing I’ve learned is that women love the idea that they’re more complex creatures that men don't understand, or who are hard to understand. They seem to think it would indicate some kind of significant depth or importance in their character, or that it means it takes a special effort to figure them out and make them feel good.
Although a lot of females complain that men don’t understand them, they actually only want men to understand but so much about them, and only what they want to be understood. They would never want a man to actually understand them as much as they understand themselves, or more, while they often like thinking they know how we guys work. I think this is because females also say they don’t get their own selves, so for a man to understand them more would feel threatening or intimidating to them. In my experience, females are actually a lot more transparent and easy to understand than they say. Actions and behaviors can say a lot more than words, and even contradictions in what they say can tell a lot.
Females get awkward when you come around them and their girlfriends…
I think some guys might see the same thing, not sure. But I’ve noticed that whenever you’re alone with a female friend or regular female acquaintance, she’s fine and comfortable hanging around you, but the moment another female - particularly one of her friends - comes around, or you come around while they’re talking, she will sometimes suddenly act very different with you. It’ll be a shy school-girlish behavior, as if she doesn’t know you, or acts like she’s wondering why you’re even talking to her, or as if she’s afraid of what her girlfriends are going to say or think because she knows you. Do women really judge each other down to the tiniest things that even who she speaks to will be scrutinized by the others? Pretty weird.
Women do like men who take charge…
Although iconic feministic women like trying to speak for women of the world today by proclaiming how much women don’t need men anymore, don’t want a man to lead, and all that BS, that’s really more wishful thinking for those women to make themselves feel better about it.
While you do have such women nowadays, it’s still largely the case that women in general do like men who know how to take charge and handle things. And I don’t think that’s really going to change. In fact it’s normal. Most women do want strong, courageous men who can lead and don’t have to be told how or when to take charge, and they do want men they can lean on and depend on. No amount of feminist rhetoric and preaching is really going to change that, and none from weak, insecure MGTOW-type guys either for that matter.
Female laughter is sometimes a cover for embarrassment…
This is another curious one I’ve noticed in interacting with women and similar to what I was saying about how she acts with you around her friends, though I’m not sure other guys have had the same experience. Often times if you say something with a female, especially in front of their friends, and she will feel awkward about it, she’ll giggle as if she’s laughing at your silliness when she’s actually laughing because she feels goofy in front of you and her friends for what you did or said. And she really doesn’t have to, and what you said or did actually was not even funny or silly, but she does because she’s nervous about you in front of company.
Women have a kid side too…
And it can be adorable! Women too can act like little kids in happy moments no less than guys, it’s just in a female way. One of the things I think is hot - and what apparently some guys find to be annoying - is chicks who are grown adults and still collect dolls or still like cartoons. There are also times where a female will act in a certain goofy kid way that is reminiscent to me of childhood and how wonderful it was and can be, and it feels good. I may not necessarily want to join in, but I just like seeing her happy and goofy. It’s a good sign when a woman can still be a kid sometimes, because it indicates that she can be youthful and still enjoys life.
Women love thinking they're pros in bed...
This is pretty common. Although females often claim that guys have big egos when it comes to sex and think they're God's gift to women, I don't really think that's fully true. I think it's far more common for us to meet women who think they're gifts in the bedroom and have the idea that they're better at pleasing - or naturals at it - than men. Women often have the faulty thinking that a guy cumming easier equals good orgasm or proves that as a female she knows what she's doing. Cumming easier is more of a biological reflex in our genitals when provided enough stimulation, and even when it happens it isn't always great. I don't know about other guys, but when I cum too soon it usually feels like it lacks spark because I wasn't really ready. And there is a such thing as a female sucking at the wrong moment or being too enthusiastic to the point where the sex is not that great. So although they often like thinking they understand the male sexual stimulus so well and how to please one, it really wouldn't hurt for women to slow down on the ego and make room for improvement.
Females will sometimes try to get their friends to dislike you too...
Definitely one I've had experience with, and I think other guys probably have too, though it does happen to other females as well. When a female has some kinds of issues with you and dislikes you for whatever reason, she will sometimes try to influence or poison her friends against you too, and often they will follow. Women can be some of the biggest group-thinkers and followers in the world, especially when it comes to listening to another female, even if she's wrong. She thinks you don't know it and thinks you don't know that she talks, but you do. And you'll know when her friends or co-workers suddenly aren't very friendly to you anymore either. For whatever reason, she's intimidated by you and feels insecure, so she tries to find security and strength in numbers by trying to get as many people on her side as possible to feel like she's right, which really indicates extreme weakness and fragility. I can say I've definitely experienced this online as well, even here on GaG.
Women do like gritty sex…
The common concept is that women are more magnetized to soft, romantic sex while most men just like the dirty and gritty. Uh uh. Not entirely true. A lot of women do like gritty, filthy sex as much as men, and even the women I’ve met online have been very open about it with me. Over the years I’ve talked to more women than I can remember who detailed how they like having their hair pulled or really want it, like it in the ass, being “throat fcked,” play raped, tied up, getting facials, etc. It can be quite surprising and even frightening sometimes to be honest, especially from women who only ever want one kind of dirty sex all the time, and never anything else.
Another curious thing many have said to me is how much they like that stuff, but need a certain man to do it. By this they meant they need a guy who is courageous and manly enough to do it. Their words, not mine, lol.
Women still understand cooking and shopping better…
To be fair, I haven’t eaten a lot of food cooked by men, while I’ve eaten food from various women, and most of it has been good. It does still stand that women have a knack for cooking good food. I’ve heard some women say they think men are better cooks, but I don’t really know. I know for me I don’t have as much confidence in the kitchen as women I know have. I’m squeamish about how much seasoning to add, while most women fearlessly and generously throw it in, knowing how much by eye or taste.
Women also do know stores better, where to find things down the aisle, and what to do first. It doesn’t stop their credit card debt from being higher than ours, lol, but it does say they know what they’re looking for and how to go about it. There are times when I’ve been glad a woman was with me in the store, and other times where I feel goofy being alone trying to find something or know who to ask.
So what about you, guys? What have you learned or noticed about women so far?
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