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Girls: I am sending him lots of signals but he is not approaching me. Why? What am I doing wrong?
Also Girls:

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Boys: I still don't have a girlfriend 😐

Also Boys: My NVidia drivers failed to update on my computer. I can't figure out why. Better contact NVidia support.
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I suppose this is exactly why people say, that men need to be the leaders (or dominant) if they want a girlfriend.

I’m 24 almost 25 and have had only 1 girlfriend. It only lasted about 5 months but we lived together so it was pretty intense. I really love her but she left me and we had constant problems she was crazy and it was very hard to get her in the first place and later to maintain the relationship which she eventually ended she didn’t seem to care at all after she left and cut me out of her life completely. So it just seems meaningless now. It Seemed like everything went horribly wrong. I feel it probably would have been best if I never met her. It’s been 2 years since she left and I have had tons of one night stand been to bars tons of times and it’s just getting so old I’m avoiding one night stands all together, and trying to adapt a more spiritual outlook about life. It seems impossible to establish anything half way meaningful with a girl, and I have been single so long and it doesn’t look to be getting better. Before you say anything I have hobbies, I have a good job, I have goals. I’m told I’m very handsome from many girls. I don’t have some type of overwhelming character flaw. I have gotten lots of practice with different girls and I feel I’m confident. Yet I can never meet the right girls and don’t know where to meet them. Bars don’t work, cold approaches outside of that are just awkward and typically don’t lead Anywhere. On the rare occasion I do get a date they typically ghost me. Or seem to be using me. All of the different people and difficulty to establish a basic relationship is overwhelming. I’m happy a lone but I’m starting to feel my life might flow better if I had a partner. Because I’m constantly looking for different girls it would save so much time just to be able to establish something with one I think most people would be better that way also.

We knew each other 2 years ago, and we've been each other's bestie for almost 18 months. For uni, each one travelled to a different country a year ago. She's literally the closest person to me, and so am I to her. I had feelings for her a few months ago. She once gave me remporary hope when she told me she had feelings for me because I was the first guy she knows but those feelings are already dead now. She kept mentioning relationship stuff, and she strangely felt that I like her. One day I flirted with her as I usually do in a humorous way, not becauseI like her. She literally told me "I don't accept flirting anymore because I feel something with your feelings, and I don't wanna give you hope while I'm not ready. If it was someone else or someone I'm interested in, I would have accepted it." I got triggered a bit, and I understood that she doesn't wanna give me hope because she's never gonna like me or something, and I always relate it to my height (5'5"). Today, she told me she has feelings for a guy for a few months til now. She asked me about how to approach him and whether it's right or wrong to start a relationship and other friendy stuff. I was being nice and helped her a bit. She hasn't told me his name yet, and I don't think it's me. The reason why I didn't tell her directly that I like her is that I'm not ready yet to start a relationship because of many reasons, and the main one is that it's too early to know where I'm gonna work after uni, how my life would be, and whether it's gonna be stable since I'm studying in another country than her and than me and her live.
I know when I get stressed, I think in the wrong direction. I want people to help me figure out a solution to me problem.
I don't know whether to tell her everything and that I'm not ready for commitment&give her the feeedom to decide what she's up to, or to avoid dealing with her at all and end all this, or to just wait til I'm ready for commitment and tell her everything and that I'm ready.