Girls, why do girls only seem to go after guys who show off their bodies, pose with other girls on social media and display their life?

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why I even bother approaching girls now, it does not matter anymore if you are a proper guy, who knows how to handle his shit, ambitious, does not want to show off on social media. I have realized guys who have very good morals and ethics are usually the ones who girls won't even care about giving a second look at. If these guys admit that they never had sex, a girl will automatically assume 1) he's lying or 2) he's gay and to me that is quite stupid since girls always complain about fuck boys online. This generation, this life is pathetic. I cannot believe someone such as myself, who tries to be a good, understanding, hard working guy is still single in his early 30s. I am in grad school, I may even do my honours at Harvard, I cook great food, I'm in shape, people think I'm funny, I don't do drugs/don't party/don't drink, and I think I'm decent looking. You might think maybe you are too overbearing or don't communicate well or blah blah blah. It's fine if others critique me but I have worked on myself a lot throughout the years. Whoever answers this, please don't assume that I've been sitting around eating Doritos playing videos games in my 20s and still doing the same thing in my 30s. I have officially given up hope what women/girls want because obviously I'm just not it.

Any rude comments by girls on here will be reported to GAG and I will block you.

[btbc92]

I say welcome to the club, cuz that's exactly what men do too. I find it very sad and it's a shame that this has to happen. I'm sorry that you have to go through all of that, as I went through much worse than that. I went through emotional, psychological, and spiritual abuse if not just mental abuse with these guys. If a woman don't have respect for you because you are a decent man, and they can't complain and talk about where all the good men go. Because you at least sound like a Godly Man to me that deserves a woman who is equally as what you put out. It's up to you if you still want to continue, but I chose celibacy years ago. Better to be by yourself, then to be dealing with people who just going to bring you much heartache. However, I say just think long and hard about what type of women you're pursuing, and the reasons why you choose to date. You may come to find out that your reason may not be validated at all.

But if you really desire a real relationship, then I encourage you not to give up. Just take your time, and go at your own pace in life. God will do the rest if you leave it in his hands.

[thegirlfromthething]

People who are active on social media are more visible. Girls won’t know about your positive traits if you don’t broadcast them and it’s more efficient to post online where hundreds of girls can learn about you and decide if they’re interested than try to give individual girls a chance to get to know you in person. You also sound negative, bitter, vengeful, and stuck on negative experiences in the past and girls could be picking up on that. I’m not trying to be rude, I’m just frankly describing how you come off here.

[Asker]

(1) Yeah your right I am because I'm tired of the rejections and even then I don't act disrespectful to girls in public, I am willing to hold the door open and since I go to grad to school and have my own apartment I never once asked ANY girl to come to my apartment to "to hang out". Trust me, I know guys who are complete players and fuck different girls on a monthly basis, but I don't want to follow their lead because that's not me. It's not bitterness to girls, it's the experiences and me asking God, why do I keep getting screwed over. But at the same time, I look back at elementary school, jr high and high school and many teachers and principals doubted, they did not think I could even get into community college, let alone university. But now I completed university, in grad school, I may even do my masters at an Ivy league school in the States. If I told you my experiences you would be shocked, any girl who had to deal with what I dealt with would be a complete WRECK right now. But girls have the upper hand because guys will court y'all, girls won't court guys it doesn't work that way. I'm not saying I sit back and a girl just falls into my arms I know it requires effort. But you also have to realize look at the world we live in today, are girls that modest? Are girls that truthful or understanding? I don't need to deal with a girl who's half naked getting lustful looks from men, guys and boys everywhere. I don't need to deal with a girl who's always dancing around. Because let me warn you about something, shit's about to get real, and scary in this world. If you think covid-19 is bad, watch what's going to happen it's not going to be pretty and it will wake people up or it may not. When I talk to girls, I don't want to send off negative vibes. I may tell girls, listen, I am straight forward, no nonsense, I don't want fuck around and maybe it's because many of those girls are immature that they don't understand.

[Asker]

(2) But you can't point the finger at me because I know plenty of girls who come from broken homes and have absent fathers so girls use their bodies to get weird attention from guys. So technically there are a lot of girls out there who also harbour resentment towards men, especially their fathers or ex bfs... That's truth that's not a lie, you can't put 100% the blame on me. I am trying, I don't go to clubs or weird spots to meet girls. I will give every girl a chance, its a fresh start, why would I act negative with them? That's dumb on my part if I did that.

[Asker]

(3) I would say 90% of the girls I approach are online only because girls on GAG, media, magazines makes it seem like men and guys should NOT approach women. So that’s already giving a negative vibe from the get go. It’s a cop out answer if you say “well you seem bitter” but than you dont truly look at what’s also happening. Guys have openly have told me I don’t want to approach girls because they’ll complain. Then it’s “oh well those guys are pussies” it seems like nothing pleases you girls and that’s where the frustration comes in for me. I’m simple, if I’m in my early 30s and I had opportunities to have sex but did not in my 20s you can look at that as odd but I look at that as grounded. Someone who has good morals who doesn’t want to fuck around. Any girl who talks smack about all guys are players well I will back it up with my actions and if she still complains that’s not my fault, I can change the perception of others.

[Asker]

I can’t change the perception of others*

[CreativeMumble]

Sounds like you go after the wrong women then.
I'm sure there are ton of women who have been searching for someone just like you.
It's about finding someone you have that chemistry with, and that is something that's difficult for most of us.

[Asker]

but girls complain about ohhh all these dicks are soo self-centered they eventually don't care about pleasing his girl, and maybe your right some of the girls may have been, but its also based on bad luck or awful timing as well which I won't get into and I wonder holy fuck why am I getting screwed left/right/center. I want to be a great guy where other girls regret they never gave me a chance or even their number. I use things in life as motivating factors to stick it to people that they doubted me, shunned me that they missed out. You know in 2019, I told people there will be a recession, demand in homes wouldn't be as high, we will witness unprecedented things in 2020... People didn't believe me, they laughed... Well 8 months in to 2020 and look at how much has gone on.

[CreativeMumble]

You cannot avoid people complaining about not finding the right one.
Men complain about there are no great women just as women complain about it.

Now I don't know you, how you come off or anything.

But I don't know what else to say... Finding the right one can be difficult and a pain in the ass.

[TraceyByrd]

Those girls are clearly immature searching for fuckboiis made juss for them , they're all meant for eachother at the end of it all.

You can do better I'm sure

[Gwenhwyfar]

This is not always true, but it is odd not to have sex by your early 30s. That being said, try girls your own age in your grad seminars.

[Liz_thorne]

Where and when do you approach girls?