Why do girls act weird after getting asked out and saying no?

[Subotai]

I was in a class in college. We had to do a group project, I decided to work with a group of International Students from Indonesia and one was from Korea. There were 3 girls and one guy. I had talked with them just being friendly and curious about their country too and yeah not gonna lie the girls were pretty. Its kinda cool you can meet people from every corner of the world without going more than 5 miles from your home. They were friendly they all said hi when they saw me and we talked when we saw each other on campus. Anyway after we worked on this project exchanged phone numbers there was a girl in that group I particularly liked to talk to she seemed sort of serious about life but she also seemed to have a fun side a cute laugh, along with being cute lol. So I called her up and asked her if she wanted to go out sometime. She said she was moving away soon and she was also way too busy with homework for a boyfriend right now. I said alright I said something like I like the things you say in class and I'm sure you noticed me looking at you I had a bit of crush on you but Its good you are serious about your studies I believe you will go back to your country and do good things. I wasn't that disappointed and I tried to show I wasn't taking this rejection personal and was accepting the no. But after that she would never even talk to me and avoided me and gave me an ugly face. And her friends also no longer talked to me they might say hi If I ran into them but it was a very awkward hi. She moved away and I never talked to any of the other students that I did that project with but It confused me. I mean what's wrong with a single guy casually asking a single girl out on a date, especially if the two had talked and gotten along. Why does she and her friends all of a sudden treat me like some kind of a freak. My theory was maybe they thought I was some freak with an Asian fetish, I'm not she just happened to be Asian and attractive and I only asked her out after I saw, or thought I saw a bit of her personality, and I didn't only talk to them because I was attracted to them. the other guy who worked on the project had a girlfriend that was not one of them so I don't think he had anything to do with it. I also figured maybe the girl that turned me down told a very different story than what happened. She obviously told them all about it.

[OutOfMyElement43]

Generally, girls don't like to reject guys. It's awkward. Generally, if one girl in a group rejects you, her friends will never want to go out with you. It's kind of like if one girl in a group really likes you all of her friends will flirt with you. It also goes the other way; most girls don't want to date the guy her friend rejected. However, the degree to which you're saying they avoided you could be a cultural thing. You'd have to ask an Indonesian or Korean exchange student about that one.

[Subotai]

Yeah none of those girls struck me as real conservative. one of those other girls in that group had an American boyfriend. I think she was the only one it that group that was single actually. Whole thing kinda p*sses me off. I read some girls article that said guys should be more aggressive about asking us out there's no hurt in asking. That's simply not true. Its like my reputation got hurt and I didn't do anything to be ashamed of.

[AlyssMaddigan]

She probably didn't really want to reject you, but felt it was necessary for her to keep her focus.. Then she did this thing that a lot of girls do and psych themselves out telling themselves that you are nothing but trouble and that you will only screw everything up and look, great, your emotions also ruined every shot we had at a friendship, you jerk!

See what I did there?

I know it sort of hurts but you just need to step up and get over her.. she seems kind of psycho anyway..

[OutOfMyElement43]

This why guys need very thick skin! :)

[Subotai]

Yeah psycho. Are you like saying part of her wanted to say yes so now she's got to avoid me. I don't know what I thought was even wierder was how all her friends avoided me like the plague. I am totally over it. I didn't take the no personal just the way she acted afterwards. I just sort of imagine even if girls say no that straight women in general like to be asked out as opposed to ignored, I mean it was a compliment

[AlyssMaddigan]

I am saying exactly that. She said no, and now she is demonizing you to herself so she doesn't feel bad about it.

[Subotai]

Wierd

[BoudourB]

Because we think its funny how we said no to a guy.

[Subotai]

Funny I am not sure I understand. Like it was funny I asked her. why would that mean not talking to me anymore. Your saying its like they are laughing at me. Well if that's the case whatever I have nothing to be embarrased about

[iwbym]

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[DemsBones]

What was funny? because I think its really f-ing hilarious when I reject a girl who asks me out, ESPECIALLY if I hurt her feelings. then I'll go to all my friends and make fun of her, so they won't talk to her either. god women are cruel