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So over the holiday my mother and I were talking and dating came up. I'm a virgin who never dated and not concerned about it right now because I'm focusing on myself. Since this was a private conversation and I'm close to my mother, I came out and told her that I only want to date another virgin and I'm willing to wait until marriage. She didn't go crazy or anything, but she tried to convince me otherwise, asked me even if she only had sex 1 time before you'd still wouldn't date her, and I said no I wouldn't. We ended up debating back and forth and eventually I just said "I chose to save myself for someone special and I just ask for the same in return", but what she said next very much insulted me. She said "well a woman only has sex when she's in love, and sometimes her feelings were't right, and you should be more considerate and accept it." It sounded like she was telling me to just give myself away regardless of what I want. Just give myself to whoever like a charity food stamp. I know she didn't mean it and was trying to help, but I couldn't help but to feel offended. I didn't bring this up because I still respect my mother, but this is what her dating and sex life was.

She lost her virginity at 13.
Dated a guy in his mid 20's when she was 15.
Got pregnant by said guy and had my sister at 16 then my brother at 21.
We still don't know who my biological father is because she was hooking up with random guys while living at some old guy's house, and that old guy might even be my father because she was sleeping with him too.
She's been married 3 times and didn't have children with any of the men she married.

Both my older brother and sister had their first child at 17. My sister is an overweight single mother in her mid 30s and my brother in being divorced for cheating on his wife and is running off with a girl he already got pregnant, and his child support looks like a shopping list.

If I'm going to get into a relationship, I want something that's special.

My boyfriend never had a good relationship with his parents and basically wants nothing to do with them. It was his birthday yesterday and he turned 17. His mom kept calling me a girl, she/her & my deadname/given name. I found that disrespectful. But I acted nice since it was my boyfriend's birthday. When he went to go to the washroom, she told me "I would like to call you by your given name, it's so beautiful & since you're pregnant, of course your a female" yet I have a transgender friend I know who works with her at a restaurant and she calls him; his preference name. Another thing is let's say someone name was Ken but they rather be called Kennedy (since I don't want to give out his name). His mom kept saying "Ken" when he would prefer "Kennedy" and she object to the idea of calling him that. Which he would fight with her all the way to the place in the car. His dad doesn't like it either but he at least calls me Damien. I may be pregnant but I don't ever consider myself a mother to it since that a female term for a women. I consider myself a caregiver instead or a parent or a father. My boyfriend will say you are " a motherly father ". But since I haven't had surgery (from not being old enough to afford it) and my parents are against abortion. I'm being mature, keeping the baby and holding off on my transition. Putting the baby needs over mine is what I say. But I don't see how that makes me a girl when I've seen trans man have babies since they want their own and still consider themselves a male. Everyone has their own opinion, and I never planned on having a child, maybe adoption when I was older. But even being pregnant I consider myself a male, just my body isn't until further notice. I wear binders still until it going to make my chest sore. Then I'll have to start wearing sports bras, not actually bras. But I'm going to wear male clothes throughout this time. His mom just doesn't help with her opinions, which I find mean since she's full-on Christian.