Search Results: am i overweight for my age

OK, so I turned 50 a few months ago, but I have taken good care of myself, am a successful person, my kids are grown, and I divorced two years ago. I have always been told I am very handsome, but I have never really taken this seriously.

I started on a dating site about 10 months ago and put the age parameters to "ages 40 to 50" and began reaching out to women and they reached out to me. Here is what I found out:

I went on about a dozen dates with women who are "in my age range" (40 to 50) and was really disappointed. These women did not look at all like their profile pictures, most of them are seriously overweight, wore way too much makeup, didn't have much to say and overall they were completely unimpressive. These women seem hell bent on trying to recapture their "roaring 20's", even wearing inappropriate clothing, trying to put off an attitude of "I'm so sexy baby".

At the end of every date with with above 40 to 50 year olds, all but one was ready to have sex with me. I did have sex with four of them but I never had any intention of seeing them again -- shitty, I know.

I talked to a friend of mine and he said, "dude, why TF are you dating 40 to 50 year old women when you can have 25 to 30 year old women". I was kind of stunned. He leaned over my shoulder while I logged in to my dating site and made a few tweaks for me. Let me say, my profile is totally honest with very current photos, career, and information. Having said that, I reached out to some seriously hot women in the 25 to 30 range fully expecting to be laughed at (then go kick my friends ass!). To my surprise, I have an inbox full of messages from extremely attractive women all of whom are between 20 to 30. Amazing! I could never have attracted these women when I was 25, but so be it.

Having said all of the above, I am gearing up for a first date tomorrow afternoon with hottie #1. She is 26, a stunningly beautiful brunette, and she seems ready for action.

Am I totally fucked up?

I've heard countless conversations with guys and I'm utterly convinced guys have a lower threshold for looks than women.

I remember I had a coworker who told me that he would sleep with a coworker who was basically a 3/10. She didn't wear makeup, was overweight, saggy skin, looks old for her age but he said he was still willing to bang her. I told him "You'd bang anything with a hole" and he said "that's how guys are." I told him not all guys (sure as heck not me) but he said "the vast majority" and I was inclined to agree. We then talked about how guys cared about looks, but he told me that its women who care more about looks and on a more disproportionate scale too.

This was years ago.

Then I see women who don't like guys because of their height, weak jaw, ethnicity, and baldness and I'm like... man, my coworker was right.

Anyways, what are your thoughts?