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My best friend broke up with her long-term boyfriend, whom is also my friend. He told her that he loved her kinda early on while dating (she was his first for basically everything which I think caused this). He tells me he thought he was in love because he didn't know what it felt like but that he didn't really fall in love until later. I don't know if I believe him but let's give him the benefit of the doubt. Most importantly, it was before she thought she loved him. I think it was all downhill from there. I know both of them pretty dang well and I know they're perfect for each other. I created a poll to see if anyone agrees before I say anything to either of them. Also, like 4 or 5 months before they started talking she had been heartbroken and was an absolute wreck. I assume she built up some walls emotionally which made her hesitant to fall deeply for someone again.

In my experience girls are not attracted to guys who chase, doesn't matter how compatible they may be (which they seem so compatible it makes me sick/jealous when I hang out with them lol). He was just about always the one doing the chasing it seemed. Because she knew he loved her and he put her on a pedestal before she even thought she loved him, I think her feelings weren't able to further develop. In other words, she knew she could have him at the snap of her fingers so it was hard for her to be attracted to him. Also, I think the pressure of feeling she needed to reciprocate made it even harder for her on top of what happened in her last relationship. They weren't exclusive the first year when he wanted to be the entire time (surprise surprise) but they were the second year. in my opinion, I think space was what they needed for many reasons. Each time he'd remind her how much he cared, however he did it, it would just push her further away as girls are only attracted to lovey doveyness if they're really into the guy. Which, based on a lot of things but mainly timing, she wasn't. Thoughts?

You on a dating site and based on his pictures, he is 6/10 but his personality sucks you in. You enjoy texting him and eventually went on a first date. But his appearance dropped to 3/10. And of course, compared to texting, he was a bit more awkward.

You had mixed feelings after the date. He was fine and he did make you laugh and complimented your looks. But you wouldn't reach out to him yourself. However, you still feel like there more things to talk about with him and he seems to be informative and you enjoy talking to him. If he continues to show his interests in you and sinserely asks for a second date, would you give him the chance?

Erin Tillman, who’s single, says “I’ve been on coffee dates with guys where they didn’t pay for my coffee.” That is definitely not the way to go if you want a second date—with Tillman or most women. Based on her own dating history and her clients’ experiences, Tillman told Salon, “if he doesn’t offer to pay, it’s definitely a turnoff.” As she sees it, “It sets a guy up for success. You don’t want to do anything that’s going to ruin your chances of dating someone.” She suggests the guy pay for the first month, or until you’ve established that you’re in a committed relationship.