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My ex colleague/ex manager messaged me 2-3 months after I quit to check in and asked to go out for coffee sometime to catch up.

We got along pretty well at work. However, he is single (I think) and I am in a relationship. I personally don’t see anything wrong with it but I don't know how my boyfriend will see it. I don’t want to disrespect him either. Before I ask him I wanted to get opinions because even if I ask him, he might take offense to it and it’ll be an inevitable argument.

Is meeting for coffee w an ex colleague ok if it’s casual? After Googling it I’m wondering … if it sounds more like a date? I might cancel or decline.

My boyfriend started working late nights with a mortuary company. He started pretending he had calls to get done. I believed he was cheating so it got bad and we went our own way. I went to get my car back and caught him red handed with another girl in the car. That night I pulled up he offered me money to go home but I noticed a shadow in the drive way and I managed to run up to the car and found a girl with 2 kids. I didn’t fight her. I took her with me bc she didn’t have a way of getting home and had kids and he also got away in my other car ( I’m dumb af) later that night he broke into my room and was sleeping on my bed. I went through his phone and he had another girl he was actually having a sexual relationship with. I confronted him and exposed him on his IG page. His guy friends congratulated him for his actions, at the end of the day a lot of girl thanked me. I decided to get back with him and forgive him. When he finally took me to his new place he was renting I noticed pictures of a girl who looked familiar , second time around I recognized who it was. It’s his ex from years ago. I was mad but at the same time he brings me over and sometimes I cook there. I don’t know how to feel about it. She’s not always around but when she is she offers him food her mom cooked or she whines and wants to talk about how she got hurt that day , he doesn’t say much just gets back to his room. I just wonder if he had conversations with her before I came around and even ate with her. He’s friendly and doesn’t say no when someone offers him food/conversations. It only makes me wonder what else he’ll accept. I forgot to say the first night I slept over the ex came back & just opened his room door.. she saw me laying down. Since then she keeps her distant but wtf? I’m obviously in love with this guy and tolerate his bs. I’m 23 and he’s 30 He like to act like he doesn’t need me but at the same time he knows he has advantage bc my cars are under his name. I was 19 b4.