Is my father right about his concern?

[Anonymous]

I broke up last year after 5 years of the relationship going nowhere. In addition, he got caught stealing items and money from us.

I've been in a new relationship for slightly over 4 months now. Unlike my ex boyfriend, my family and friends like him. My father however, always seems to voice his concerns so fast. We've spent more than an hour talking on the table. He told along the lines of ''He does seem like a decent man but be careful with the ''oh you're my princess, oh my soulmate'' seduction for beginners trap. That's BS. Don't let compliments get to you. They mean nothing without actions. You're not winning anything with loving words. Any one can say that. It's actually transforming words into actions that counts.

I've been straight forward with him that I'm not dating to date nor to have fun. I'm dating to have a family and don't want my time wasted nor getting told too many promises. But yeah... is my father right to be that concern for me?

[Anonymous]

As a guy it's painful to watch women we care about make the same foolish mistake again and again. Especially when the truth is so obvious to us. Don't take it personal. Just know your dad cares.

[Asker]

yeah my father never liked my ex boyfriend and I was too blind at that moment. With my current boyfriend, he's ok but still advices to not waste time because I have limited time to have kids. I'm currently 28 so yeah his concern is understanding.

My father's happiness moment and to him it's like it was yesterday:
- He bought me an expensive doll house with a pool I've insisted so much. He isn't into spending too much money on things but did it for me. He built it for me and was happy (big smile on his face) when I was playing with it. He was happy that I was happy.

Then his sad moment was after what happened with my first relationship (my ex boyfriend). He wished the guy the worst punishment to him, the worst karma. He hates him badly. My mother and another relative told me that on his private moment, my father was actually on the verge of tears. To him, someone hurting me is like someone stabbing him in the heart.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes, your father is right. Make sure there is substance behind his words.

[Asker]

After what happened with my first relationship, I've gotten more straight forward and will dump quickly if a man isn't on my same page on marriage and kids. By now, the ''falling in love with your ears'' will not do it, isn't enough. It's been permanently changed to ''falling in love with actions'''.

[Asker]

In addition I'm now 28 and can't afford another 5 years of time wasted. Prior to dating my current boyfriend, I've dumped 2 dates that weren't into kids and marriage.

[Jamie05rhs]

That's good. It sounds like you are wise now and making better choices. You won't tolerate any more nonsense.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO!