I want my ex back but she is "seeing someone else"?

[Olympusfitness]

My ex Sara and I dated for about 1.5 years and were talking about getting married and having kids. We went on a vaca in Dec.2020 and another one of my exes messaged me. Nothing flirting or anything but then my ex Sara the next day asked how long i was talking to her for and i got caught up and lied and said one week. It was actually a month of just small talk. I had no intentions of seeing her or anything. We move past that and continue dating. I had a client that i was snapchatting and my ex said she was uncomfortable with it so I told her I would stop. Then one day I decided fuck it and added her back. We had a snapstreak but again... no flirting. My ex caught me hiding it on July 4th 2021. She broke up with me again but we got back together. Now December 2022, we go on an expensive vacation and she sees that I still have my client on tiktok. I told her I didn't know and she said that I removed her from everything awhile back. We broke up and she wanted back together, I was skeptical because she kept having this resentment towards me. still talked everyday, hung out, hooked up. Feb. 2022 she tells me she went on a date and nothing came of it and we still hung out and hooked up one more time. Then I asked her to grab dinner one day and she told me that she was seeing someone, the same guy. A week later, called her and begged for her back , told her still in love. She told me that I needed to move on and that I would find someone. I asked if she still loved me and she said no in the past but then said she will always have love for me on the phone. She said this is getting serious with this guy even though it's been like a month. He's already met stepdad that raised her, her dying father, and one friend. They're going to a concert June and one in September but not alone. We had a real serious relationship that just dwindled and I thought we'd get back together. My mom told me she said she was moving slow with him. What should I do, I'm on day 7 of not talking to her

[HollyK21]

Please respect her wishes, and work on healing so that you can move on. This is all still pretty fresh, so I understand that you’re having a hard time and not wanting to accept that it’s over. But it’s not about you and what you want, and tbh it’s quite selfish. You have to let her enjoy that relationship and see where it goes. If sometime in the future they breakup, then that’ll be your opportunity to swoop in, of course considering you’re even still interested or haven’t found someone yourself. For now though, your time is over. Accept that, rather than living in denial and trying to cling onto your place in her life. It’s not your spot anymore.

[Kkstarzz96]

you have to either change the behavior that made her not want you or think of the behavior of hers that you didn't like. and minimum is 90 days between the official break up and talking to an ex again. you are playing with your own emotions and developing a lack of trust in your own judgment that will impair your decision making in the future. if you ended it with her multiple times, you have to trust you did for a reason that outweighed any pro's. you do not get to keep only the benefits and ignore the problems, a person is whole, everything or nothing. and if she's seriously dating someone else, you should respect her and let her find what she wants. clearly you don't understand how you doing what you're trying to make her do, ended your own relationship. don't drag her down the same way, that's very rude of you.

[Honesttguy]

And i want million dollars but they are in someones elses pocket right now, what can i do

[Daniela1982]

Well, if she can't trust you to be honest and faithful to her she probably did the right thing and break up with you. I mean how many chances do you think she should give you anyway?

[Olympusfitness]

i went to couples therapy with her and was honest with her after the fact. another ex reached out to me and i told her and then another client tried to add me on snapchat and i told her about it. i made an effort to try and redeem myself then she saw i still had my client on tiktok which i didn;t even realize. i told her i hope that she found happiness and that the guy she is seeing is a nice guy cause i know him. When i had a mental breakdown on the phone with her we ended things on good terms