I'm pregnant and he's seeing someone else.

[Anonymous]

OK so I just found out I am pregnant with y ex boyfriends baby. We recently broke up. I am really upset to be honest. I moved to where he lived to be closer and to make it work. and it was going great till well... I don't know he said he wanted space, then it didn't feel right, then the last thing he said was "how was he suppose to know it didn't feel right if he hadn't felt it yet", to be honest he doesn't know what he wants, but anywho, I'm pregnant and he's seeing someone else. I plan on moving back home in two weeks. should I tell him I am pregnant?

[lonelygirl83]

Hi,

My name is Sara and I am somewhat in the same situation I am 6 months pregnant now yet when I found out I was 3 months pregnant and me and my ex had split I did tell him yet he chose to avoid me and still hasn't called me , yet truly he will live with regret at one point and I am not saying that will happen to you. My ex is seeing someone else and it's extremely devestating to be placed in a situation like this. I say do tell him for the sake of your child, for regardless of the situation he is the father an he deserves to decide if he chooses to participate. It can be a challenge to go through this alone and if he decides to be there for you let him. I know it may sound crazy, yet in the long run your doing it for your child and not u. I can say I sympathize with how you feel and I want you too know that there are people that will support you through this stay strong for you an the unborn baby. You two are the most important thing through this.

I really am hoping he will help you through this, yet if he doesn't it's his loss and I myself always stay motivated an I continue forward for my baby . Never lose faith, and continue to be strong and pray for god will help you through these challenging moments I know he has me and will for u!

Congratulations on your baby;)

[Asker]

Thank you =-) found out I am 7 weeks tomorrow :)

I honestly do not know what to do. at first he was mad I didn't go to him first, then it just all went down to him wanting me to get an abortion. he wanted proof that I wasn't lieing, so I showed him the ultrasound, and well he believed me. I refuse to get an abortio. he says having a fatherless son isn't fair. I understand him ... he is too caught up with his new girl friend that I just decided to block him out of my life

[lonelygirl83]

I'm sorry to Hear how insensitive he really is, it shows his true intentions and his heart. Your deserving of a man that will stand by your side through this. I honestly say I know exactly how it feels to be alone, my ex still will not talk to me. Yet something always in the back of my mind tells me what if that girl dumps my ex he'll run back . Yet I will not be there with open arms. I have more self worth then that. And just so you know your baby will be just awesome being raised by you.

[SectumSemprae]

Props to you for letting him know. How did it go? It sounds like he still doesn't want anything to do with the pregnancy ...I'm sorry that he moved on so quickly, and that you're now going through this alone. It sounds like your mother is a strong role-model, and hopefully she can give you some support. Give yourself time and permission to heal from him. Love yourself ...that love will transfer to your baby as well. :)

[Nijababe99]

you need 2 tell him no matter what even if he doens't come back to you which he shouldn't because of a baby but he needs 2 knwo that he will have a child =] its not going 2 be easy but yu need 2 tell him

[jacquesvol]

Yes, you absolutely should tell it to him.

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[Asker]

Thkn you, I just do not want drama or stressed, I plan on keeping this baby, and raise it by my self. I know it'll be hard to do, but I don't think my baby should be punished for him and I not working out... I have support from all my family, I have a job and go to school.

[jacquesvol]

OK, just being helpful. You're free to chose. But If I was in his situation, I'd prefer to know.

[jacquesvol]

I've known happy single parents.

[Asker]

Oh no I appreciate the help and advice :)...and yes my mom raised four kids on her own. my two sisters are raising their kids on their own, so I know I can do it and b happy

[ChicaDulce]

Yes, definitely tell him. He is the father of the baby and although he is being a jerk, he should know about it.

I really wish you luck with this. It's a tough situation and my heart goes out to you.

[Asker]

Thank you so much, I appreciate the advice, I've decided that I will let him know, and add that I do not expect much from him either

thank you again

[Anonymous]

Yes, you should tell him. He deserves to know. Don't expect him to do anything, though.

[Asker]

Oh no, I don't expect him to do anything at all, that is why I was debating whether I should tell him or not. I don't want him to think I am trying to break up his relationship or something, I mean I am not stupid a baby does not tie a guy down. that's obvi

[Opinion Owner]

Just makin' suree... I think he should know though.

[trod199]

DRAMA

hang in there